Missmom. I know exactly what you mean:)...It must be how we are programmed...Maybe it is part of the addiction we are battling with?

It is a full moon!

I think you are craving some DRAMA!
or some mind gymnastics!

Maybe go find some new interest, hobbies, or join a night class. I used to find that when I cam doff the dating sites I missed the little excitement of the chat with someone, its like mental duel….the will they won't they, can I get them to write back…its all part of the craving drama.

This too will pass.
I crave peace now.
xxx

Though there's also the fact that it's FUN to banter with guys! I hear you on that front. Vive la différence ! I don't see anything wrong with missing it -- I would miss the hell out of it if I didn't have it. (In fact, I could do with a little more of it in my life right now.) I see it as "play" rather than craving drama or some sort of symptom of addiction.

I crave it too girl!!! It's a curse I believe. I feel bored and restless. Like something is missing.

It is fun to have interactions with Men. Not even on a romantic level but just a friendship level. At my job I don't have a lot of interaction with people and so I do get lonely for conversation. I don't have it in me to do online dating right now though...I am no mood to have any of it. So I just drink my wine and watch my television and do my own thing. I am hoping that this is a passing phase as I get my life more and more stable...

I wouldn't call that a phase Belle. I would call it enjoying your own company. Keep it up!!

I agree, I love those moments - take them all in, Belle. :)

More on this later. I am having the LONGEST day. Thank God for this site and you lovely ladies.
On another note...10 months today I'm smoke free!

sigh...I coudl go for a cigarette...:(

Congrats to you Miss!!!!

Thank you :)
Oh man am I glad this day is wrapping up.
It must be the full moon, I had the shortest fuse all day long. And then to top things off, I couldn't stop myself from listening to some songs my ex and I shared during my commute home. And so I cried. Haven't cried in a long time. It was such a mournful and deep cry. I miss him so much. He was the one, ya know? He really was the one. We were in awe over our union, over how we fit, how our paths were meant to cross. And we laughed at how silly and cliche it all is but we embraced it because it was real.

But it wasn't - because it's over and apparently, I am just so bloody forgettable because he forgot me and here I am still remembering, still there - where he loved me and would never forget me.

I can't wait to be done with this.

Sending you a big hug Missmom...I feel your pain...Much love.

Thank you. I'm recieving your hug lucidak - I Sooo need it. Xo

Missmom,
I have been thinking about your original topic all day..Thank you for posting it:)..So is this verbal interplay the reason we get together with people who aren't that great in bed, cannot support us at our times of need, do all the taking and none of the giving and basically make us miserable? My therapist wants me to put together a picture of what my life would look like if I get together with the guy in my life right now. She has asked me to consider he is basically going to have all the negative qualities I currently see in him and I have to do all the understanding, compromising and coping. I am at the point of wondering what else is left after all of that:)..

The verbal interplay is the best I have experienced so far, and great chemistry which means there is a good sense of connection, but everything else is average. I would basically have to provide for all of my other needs pretty much as I currently do.

Just interested in hearing what others feel are the "anchors" if you will of why you stay in relationships that don't provide everything we need?

I'll respond to this a little later, let me make some sense of my thoughts :)
Happy fridaaaaay!

Since high school, I’ve always kinda strived to be smarter and I always gravitated towards all things offbeat. I went against the grain however I could, I liked the attention I got from it. It was a ‘wtf’ type of attention. I wanted to be misunderstood, I wanted to confuse people, I wanted to be intriguing and I wanted to be intrigued. My taste in music was radical even at 16 years old. While everyone listened to top 40 boy bands, I was blasting The Doors or Sex pistols. Very badass lol. I hung out with potheads and we smoked and wrote poetry together. I was such a rebel. But really, I’m just curious and hyper sensitive, I think. I’ve always been very creative – Failed in Math, excelled in Plastic Arts and English Lit. I got (get) off on people who challenge me with words and original thoughts and I think it’s because I’m most critical of myself when it comes to my ability and capacity for intellectuality. I’m constantly trying to impress myself somehow. People who are all ‘surface’ really irritate me and the fact that they irritate me, really irritates me. And then also, people who try too hard at being witty, irritate me even more. You all see where this is going, right? I am my own worst enemy.
I go for guys who can out-wit me. I go for guys who’s musical taste excites me and offends me. I go for guys who remind me of me and when those guys in particular reject me, It really kinda destroys me. I wind up feeling downright stupid and unworthy of not only love – but the opportunity to be heard and appreciated on an intellectual level. That part is the hardest to deal with. I know this because when I’ve been dumped by just simple minded guys (rarily happened because I don’t date those very much) – I got over them very quickly and effortlessly.
Anyway. That is the gist of it.
This latest guy was the perfect balance. I’ve never met someone I connected with on so many levels. He met all my requirements and surpassed them even. So needless to say, it’s been one excruciating uphill battle getting over him…but I’m doing it NC and I’ll continue to do it until it’s done. Sometimes, our dignity is all we really have. ♥

BIg Hugs to you Missmom. I feel your pain and completely empathize! The insanity of it all is enough to make us mad. Some days and some moments are definitely better than others!
Go do something fun for yourself this weekend - whether it be a hike, a pedicure, or a night out with the girls. Tonight I had invites to go out but I decided to stay home and spend some time with myself! Maybe I'll cry, maybe I'll watch a movie, or maybe I'll sleep - who knows! Tomorrow night I am going out with the girls. I don't want to - but I am. My point is - TAKE CARE OF YOU!!!