Women who Love too Much Community Group

WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.

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Missmom75 08/11/2012

So much for my strength the other day. So much for thinking the worst was over.
I don't know why but today has been teh toughest in terms of resisiting the urge to text him.
I guess because it's saturday and I'm supposed to be going out with the girls tonight which only means one thing: Drinking. And Im a pro at drunk dialing. And for some reason, I'll bet he's counting on my making that huge mistake and contacting him. He knows it's my first weekend back and that i'll be out and about.
Wow, so hard today to keep myself in tact. It's unreal. I can't seem to stick to one negative thought about him. They just morph into one of our good, passionate times. Long ago..yet today, seem liek just yesterday.
The brain is a fckd up organ, it's constantly playing tricks on me.
MAKE IT STOP!

deleted_user 08/11/2012

:)

Let us know how it went :)

I'm going to sleep, because I can barely keep my eyes open in front of the computer.....

Missmom75 08/11/2012

sweet dreams :)

deleted_user 08/11/2012

You are NOT hopeless. You can do this. I know you don't necessarily want your girls to know, but all of us have been there. Tell them to hold your phone and unless it's your son, you do not want to know about it. You're not without help here I promise you can get through this. Think of the stupid arrogant look he would have on his face if he got you to give in and don't do it. He is a bad reminder right now of something you do not want to do. Be strong mom and do whatever it takes to get through one more day.

swelsha 08/11/2012

it's more than "just one text." it's stepping back into the mindset of trying to get someone that treated you poorly to love you. I think when we recover somewhat from the trauma we start having feelings again and are tempted to make contact. then they do the SAME SHIT again. you can end this misery miss. you don't have time for a half-assed man!!

deleted_user 08/11/2012

Half assed = assclown

Missmom75 08/11/2012

Thank you ladies.
ok, so I'm dressed to kill..have a few glasses of wine in my system already...and I'm outta here!
wish me luck. right now, I'm feeling good, and powerful. I won't call him.
I won't call him
I won't callhim
God help me, I won't call him
I love you guys &hearts;

deleted_user 08/11/2012

Go be strong and don't call or text him!!!

deleted_user 08/12/2012

No you're not -- you're just another person that invested your time and energy in a relationship that didn't work out. Happens all the time.

You can find him in EVERYTHING if you look hard enough. I say if you have that much time to worry about him, you're not keeping your mind busy. I found it through exercise -- it gets that GGGRRRRR feeling outta me AND I only focus on myself, my body, counting my reps and the music in my head. (And if I could start doing it at 250# you can, too) :)

Missmom75 08/12/2012

You guys got me through it.
I did not contact him and I had a great night with my gf's. Thank you &hearts;
good night all xo

deleted_user 08/12/2012

Yay!!! Missmom

I'm happy for you :)

Missmom75 08/12/2012

deleted_user 08/12/2012

Woot woot!!!!! Very very happy for you

deleted_user 08/12/2012

You are not hopeless. I feel exactly the same way. It's been almost 2 weeks since I've had contact with my boyfriend and tonight he texts me. I'm not even supposed to have contact with him!! I WANT TO CALL HIM VERY BADLY! Each minute feels like an hour. Sometimes we have to live moment by moment. I hope you didn't run into him tonight....

Missmom75 08/12/2012

I didn't. And to be honest, I wasn't even looking for him. I hardly even thought about him, we were all having such a good time :)

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