WELL SAID DRACONA :) .... Welcome back to this amazing group YOU started and which has, is and will help to change the lives for the better of all of us WWLTM who find their way to this forum through the grace of God, their Higher Power or the Universe. I do think the timing of your message is a gift to us all who use the forum to help our own individual healing journies. God Bless you and your daughter, I hope your studies are going well and that you are receiving good things and helpful people in your life. (((((((((hugs))))))))) 2Butterfly

Welcome back Dracona,
My experience has been very positive here. We have new members with many old ones who have left. I don't know if new people would understand your message and the old ones (not all but some) are gone.
I wonder if it would serve everyone better to just state positive recommendations--

And I also must add that I think some left because they didn't understand the message and took it personally. I wonder if we could post with the articles a set of positive affirmations as guidelines for the board. Perhaps that would help.

And finally, as I go and away and come back and realize that I still haven't put things correctly. I am very, very grateful to this site in all ways. Blessings to you all.

Dracona,

Thanks for saying this: "we all handle our pain in different ways... and those of us here who are in a stronger spot, are here to hold up those who feel they can barely stand, and to show them they are not alone."

I am new here and for the past several days I've backed off a bit.

I've been feeling a little self-conscious.

Kind of second guessing if its ok to post the way I've really been feeling.

marie-i always appreciate your posts. expressing our feelings is so important. please don't stop being honest.

I'm new here as well and this site has been helping me a lot. I appreciate everything that's been said that's meant to help us in our journey. I believe that posting and expressing how we've really been feeling is crucial on our path to recovery.

This morning, I woke up with a pretty strong revelation that I made a personal comment that might have offended both the poster and a few other people. There was a posting a few days ago from a woman who is a member but whom I did not see posting in a sharing capacity but rather to persuade/witness (Christ). I was raised as a Catholic and I am a spiritual person and I have NO issue with anyone's religious followings but this post offended me because it was narrow minded (in my opinion) and not loving and open to all humankind. As well, I felt it was a persuasion to sell a book and to deliver scripture.
I was blunt and told her that her post was inappropriate.
I believe that is the only time I have expressed myself in that 'tone' (or with that degree of bluntness) with anyone on this site and if I offended those of you whom it spoke to, I apologize. Perhaps this message was directed at me because of this incident.

creo i also felt that person was masquerading a clearly evangelical agenda that I also found offensive.

Dracona, posts here can be from any person with any attitude. We cant stop them. I just read past these people. There were a couple of posts offending others that hurt some people but we move past that. No matter what other people post on here, I would like to say that for the most part, this site has helped me with so many posts. I cant tell you how much this site means to me. There are so many angry people out there that sometimes the anger will filter into here but, Hey, thats expected. Theres alot of emotions here. There was one post from a girl that I have seen on here before but she posted something pretty shocking that she had done and some people gave her a pretty hard time about it. I have seen her in another group so I think she is fine. But we just have to be there for people and not be so judgemental. Even to the one who posted something negative and offending others, she was only trying to defend the one who got scolded by people...Anyway. I love this site.

I love this site too Speedy!!! It has helped me so much.

What about if we see it like this? Does this work or do I see the world through rose-coloured glasses?


WWLTM:
It is amazing to see such warmth, acceptance and support amongst strangers.
This is a beautiful place of dignity where it is safe to share.
If you share something of a personal nature that you would like not to receive feedback on, please indicate so and your wish will be respected.
If you need more support and guidance, please ask for it. This is a place for self-discovery and perhaps, the most important of all is asking for help when it is needed instead of going to a position of being a victim.
Act with kindness and consideration to your neighbour. She may be further ahead or behind you on the path to recovery but she needs your compassion.
If there is something that offends you and it feels personal between you and another member, befriend the member and write a personal message (unless you feel it would be helpful to all).
Remember that you are not alone.
Consider the adage: Do not take anything personally.
Love yourself and show yourself compassion in your journey.
Support, love, nuture, listen, receive and give.

*creo I agree with you.

I was trying to smooth things with the person who seemed to be preaching instead of talking about her issues... If anyone was offended about my post where i vented my feelings of being frustrated and angry... it was not meant for anyone on this site is was meant for all the hurt I have buried and not toward any individual actually just me feeling overwhelmed with disgust at myself and how horrible I feel right now..

so i agree with creo... we are all on a path... some times it is smooth, sometimes rocky and some times it has a trap door that we fall into... x's

Do any of you gals who are further down the road

get a bit frustrated with us gals who are just coming to terms with the fact that we are WWLTM?