Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
I have watched Eat Pray Love so many times...it is one of my favorite movies. Here is one of my favorite quotes from the movie. Not that it's earth shattering...but because it describes me. I highly recommend this movie to anyone who hasn't seen it yet.
"It begins when the object of your affection bestows upon you a heady hallucinogenic dose of something you’ve never even dared to admit you wanted; an emotional speedball of thunderous love and excitement. Soon you start craving that attention with the hungry obsession of any junkie. When it’s withheld you turn sick, crazy, not to mention resentful of the dealer who encouraged this addiction in the first place but now refuses to pony up the good stuff. Goddamn him and he used to give it to you for free. Next stage finds you skinny, shaking in a corner, certain only that you’d sell your soul just to have that one thing one more time. Meanwhile the object of your adoration is now repulsed by you. He looks at you like someone he’s never met before. The irony is you can hardly blame him. I mean, check yourself out. You’re a mess, unrecognizable even to your own eyes. You have now reached infatuations final destination, the complete and merciless devaluation of self."
"Ruin is a gift. Ruin IS the road to transformation. … we must always be prepared for the endless waves of transformation."
"It begins when the object of your affection bestows upon you a heady hallucinogenic dose of something you’ve never even dared to admit you wanted; an emotional speedball of thunderous love and excitement. Soon you start craving that attention with the hungry obsession of any junkie. When it’s withheld you turn sick, crazy, not to mention resentful of the dealer who encouraged this addiction in the first place but now refuses to pony up the good stuff. Goddamn him and he used to give it to you for free. Next stage finds you skinny, shaking in a corner, certain only that you’d sell your soul just to have that one thing one more time. Meanwhile the object of your adoration is now repulsed by you. He looks at you like someone he’s never met before. The irony is you can hardly blame him. I mean, check yourself out. You’re a mess, unrecognizable even to your own eyes. You have now reached infatuations final destination, the complete and merciless devaluation of self."
"Ruin is a gift. Ruin IS the road to transformation. … we must always be prepared for the endless waves of transformation."
Here are my favorite Elizabeth Gilbert quotes:
People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and thats what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you will ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master.
I have a history of making decisions very quickly about men. I have always fallen in love fast and without measuring risks. I have a tendency not only to see the best in everyone, but to assume that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching his highest potential. I have fallen in love more times than I care to count with the highest potential of a man, rather than with the man himself, and I have hung on to the relationship for a long time (sometimes far too long) waiting for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism.
Stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone ought to be.
If I love you, I will carry for you all your pain, I will assume for you all your debts (in every definition of the word), I will protect you from your own insecurity, I will protect upon you all sorts of good qualities that you have never actually cultivated in yourself and I will buy Christmas presents for your entire family. I will give you the sun and the rain, and if they are not available, I will give you a sun check and a rain check. I will give you all this and more, until I get exhausted and depleted.
We search for happiness everywhere, but we are like Tolstoys fabled beggar who spent his life sitting on a pot of gold, under I am the whole time. Your treasure, your perfection, is within you already. But to claim it, you must leave the buy commotion of the mind and abandon the desires of the ego and enter into the silence of the heart
thanks IMP for posting this thread..I think I need to read the book again
Ruin is realy part of the cycle...rebuilding and evolving to our higher self...How painful it is..it leads to inner peace..Blessings to al lthis day..
I love the first quote from Imp
"It begins when ..............................devaluation of self"
I think that was and is me ............ but I've never been unable to move on from a guy before, never been so *possessed* by a guy, never ???? meshed ??? with a guy before. When I met him, I believe my logic, reasoning and faculties flew out of the window.
Thanks for the reading suggestions, I love that I hear about good books here, I am eager to learn more and more about what have become of me, make corrections and live happily ever after.
"I think I deserve something beautiful."
"I think I deserve something beautiful."
I created a facebook group to which I want to invite you all. I searched everywhere but nowhere did I find such a group on facebook. So I invite all Ladies to help myself and others .