Hey c'mon, its not like the time when seeing a little bird on the way to school meant your teacher wasn't going to scold you about your homework! Just receiving a text from him is not an omen that your trip won't be great or that your resolve will break. You still hold the keys to NC in your own hands...the hands of a beautiful blonde! Truly, have a great trip and lay the Contact monsters to rest, at least in your own mind. Much love and hugs

:) thanks Shabari.

Stay strong. It is hard to ignore what seems to be a friendly, inoffensive text but he does not deserve your attention. It will be okay. You are going to have a great trip.

It's so hard.
He texted again 'I know I don't deserve a response, just want you to know I'm thinking of you. have a safe trip.'

He is being an emotional vampire by contacting you Miss. He is planting a seed so you will think about him. And you're allowing him (been there myself recently) because you're not ready to fully let go. But soon you will be. Stay strong! No contact will mean eventually blocking his number to protect yourself from temptation and wonder and drunk texting and many other pitfalls that you don't need. You've made it so far already, you don't want to start all over!

I know you probably don't want to hear this, but two things are happening here:

1. He is telling you he isn't worth a response. And the truth is, men tell us who they are ALL OF THE TIME and we choose to ignore them. I remember the last round I got back with my ex, I asked him about how he could be so cold to me. His response? "Because I'm an asshole". And guess what?? He wasn't kidding. They know when they aren't worth our time. He's admitting he knows that. We have to believe them when they tell us who they are. He spelled it out for you and deep inside you know it's true. Now you have to choose to let it go.

2. You are a beautiful strong woman who probably feels a little validated by the texts (that's what many of us here struggle with, right?) so you now have to validate yourself. You have new hair and hot nails and you're all ready to get this sexy show on the road lady! You have room in your purse for many things. A camera, lipstick, maybe a good book, photos of your awesome son...but there's not enough room for this guy and all his baggage. Leave it behind when you're packing sweetie.

Whoa Maryland
Who is this woman??
Impressive!

you could respond. then he'll know he can just totally blow you off, drop by once in awhile when he feels like it, never really commit to anything. then send you a couple of emails and you'll come running back.
HELL NO.

Maryland once again you have brightened my mood. :)
Thanks babe.
seriously.

I need to settle down and read my book. get my mind off all this for a bit.
I'll be fine, ladies. Thanks for all the sound advice.
xo

You're right Swelsha.
I have not responded.
He leaves tomorrow anyway so hopefully he won't be wasting any long distance airtime on me..
This bites the big one though!

What is NC?

nc=no contact

NC = NO CHOICE