Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
I now know why my boyfriend suddenly has been avoiding me for the past several days. He texts me today and tells me that his ex gf (which he
always referred to as phycho chick) she wants to meet with him. Its only been about 6 months since they broke up so I guess here I go again with
another heartbreak of the exgf syndrome. He says he hasn't met with her yet. I can't tell you how many bad things he has told me about this woman and her behavior and her extreme jealousy issues. I reminded him of all this and he says that's why he's very hesitant. I myself know there are two sides to every story. I simply text him back and tell him that I don't know what to tell him, but whatever he decides to do I wish him the best! Maybe that wasn't the best thing to say but I didn't know what to say as I was in shock a little. His response back to me again, he hasn't met yet, but she's hounding him and that he's just very confused right now. I don't know how many times he has thrown in my face how hot she is, and on a scale form 1-10 she's a 12, and she's extremely good looking, those are actually the only good things he's ever said about her to me. I can't compete with that nor do I want to.
My therapist told me to leave him alone! Don't call or text him, let him go back to her because statistically it won't work out, and in the mean time I will move on. I just can't seem to get through my head that if I don't break it off right now I will never have personal growth. I know I need to run for the hills while its still early in the relationship. I am addicted to the bad boy type!!! I have tears pouring down my face as I write this because I truly don't know what to do or feel or how to deal with yet another man telling me he's leaving me for an exgirfriend.
I just want to crawl under a big rock and die right now.....:-(
always referred to as phycho chick) she wants to meet with him. Its only been about 6 months since they broke up so I guess here I go again with
another heartbreak of the exgf syndrome. He says he hasn't met with her yet. I can't tell you how many bad things he has told me about this woman and her behavior and her extreme jealousy issues. I reminded him of all this and he says that's why he's very hesitant. I myself know there are two sides to every story. I simply text him back and tell him that I don't know what to tell him, but whatever he decides to do I wish him the best! Maybe that wasn't the best thing to say but I didn't know what to say as I was in shock a little. His response back to me again, he hasn't met yet, but she's hounding him and that he's just very confused right now. I don't know how many times he has thrown in my face how hot she is, and on a scale form 1-10 she's a 12, and she's extremely good looking, those are actually the only good things he's ever said about her to me. I can't compete with that nor do I want to.
My therapist told me to leave him alone! Don't call or text him, let him go back to her because statistically it won't work out, and in the mean time I will move on. I just can't seem to get through my head that if I don't break it off right now I will never have personal growth. I know I need to run for the hills while its still early in the relationship. I am addicted to the bad boy type!!! I have tears pouring down my face as I write this because I truly don't know what to do or feel or how to deal with yet another man telling me he's leaving me for an exgirfriend.
I just want to crawl under a big rock and die right now.....:-(
This tells me that you deserve better. A man completely committed to you and being with you, not room to contemplate others. And if he's feeling confused, then that tells you that he still hasn't worked all his stuff out with her either. Often people say horrible things when they still feel anger, hurt and pain about someone, which is why he might have always had bad things to say about her. Did she dump him? If so, then that would explain the hostility. Love and hate are just 2 sides of the same coin.
Take good care of yourself tonight. Wrap yourself in a blanket, drink a cup of tea and give yourself an emotional hug symbolized by the blanket. ok?
So pleased you took a detour round that rock and stopped by :-)
LG x
LG x
we women all suffer the same to get to the wedding podium we go through alot in this era of ours. let alone after the podium to make it work till death do us apart.
but i have come to realize that life is what you make it . men have become selfish wanting more from us even though they offer little or nothing.
am married and happy today not because he came to his senses or i finally met the right one but it was because i decided to think out of the box and made him the right one for me.
ooh yes it was not because of my hard work i put in to do everything he wanted, or changing from who iam into someone else but i added a little spark or irk into our love by using a love spell which made him to stay because i loved him and he loved me but he was not committing i felt like i was loosing him. i mean we had already two kids my life had changed into a mother but his was the same living his life the same. oooh how selfish but its all thanks to this man baba musa . at first it was difficult to decide but he talked to me advised me before we started everything and its the best decision of my life am happy and my family.talk to that healer baba musa just for advise its free with him his email is obabamusa@gmail.com or www.handsofnatures.com. girls stop being heart broken waiting for someone to change your life you have the keys to your car drive it or you will always be late
I'm sorry to post all this here, but I'm incredibly internet unsavvy, and I think this should go as it's own post, but...
I am so happy to have found this group! I need a group of women who I can relate to, so hopefully the board returns to the "old days" of active support. Wow, I could use it!
New to the concepts of Loving Too Much, but I tick all the boxes! Feeling overwhelmed, even when I spend my days in the flannel nightgown binging Netflicks.
I just need to know where to start? Counsellor… check. Robin Norwood's book… check. Codependent No More… check. Daily meditations… check. I also am facing 50. I want to believe the the notion of loving in a normal partnership can work. It hasn't for me, because I have picked three classic "projects". Is there hope? Does anyone get strong and move on. I don't want to move on right now. I don't trust myself to not find a fourth project… but does it work for some? looking for a lifeline. A glimmer of hope..
So happy to see action on the board. For the past year it's been very quiet---though there's a group of us who actively communicate via the journal system. You mentioned you are turning 50 soon. What dore06 said about not finding happiness in someone else but finding it in oneself has been a concept that I've been rolling around in my mouth, turning it over and at times finding it appealing and other times not so much. But I would have to agree with her in that I believe that if we put too much stock in the value of a relationship, we begin to compromise our standards simply so we can be in a relationship. I'm still trying to learn the lesson. I'm still in a relationship, but I have done a lot of compromising and not all of it positive.