Women who Love too Much Community Group

WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.

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#11 addicted to emotional pain

Group FounderDracona
Dracona
We use our obsession with the men we love to avoid our pain, emptiness, fear, and anger. we use our relationship as drugs, to avoid experiencing what we would feel if we held our own. The more painful the relationship, the better the distraction. a truly awful circumstance is like a strong drug. without someone to focus on, we actually go through withdrawal. Nausea sweating, chills, shaking, pacing, obsessive thinking, depression, inability to sleep, panic, and anxiety attacks. in effort to relieve these symptoms we return to our last partner or desperately seek another.
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deleted_user
Hey Katie, I am so sorry that you are having a bad day. I know all about the withdrawl period. It took every ounce of strength I had not to contact my X, the first 2 weeks. I would have gone back to him in an instant if he had just given me any excuse for his deplorable behavior.

Thank goodness he did not contact me. It was my greatest blessing, although it was also my most painful lesson.

I do not know if you are unstable or just in a great deal of pain from being in an unhealthy relationship, but the key is to become emotionally stable and THEN look for a relationship. That has been one hard lesson for me to learn.

I wish you peace.
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deleted_user
yeah this is a hard one to accept, but it is def true in my life. sometimes i see it in my job life too, not just my relationships as well. its hard to be healthy. but coming back to this site really helps put me back on track. thanks for your voices ladies.