I’ve been dating a man for almost two years now and it became evident to me a few months into the relationship that he is a severe alcoholic however I have gotten nowhere trying to help him overcome this problem. He is kind, smart, successful, handsome and everything a girl would want in a husband and initially I thought I had met my soulmate. It wasn’t until we started spending days at a time together that I realized he was a heavy drinker, and it wasn’t until we moved in together that I realized the full extent of the issue. When I started meeting his friends I saw the first red flag when I realized that most of his friends are people he has known since HIGH SCHOOL and all they do together is drink. I can’t tell that they really have anything else in common except a love of alcohol. How can someone who’s been to college and has a successful professional career only want to hang out with people he met over a decade ago that only get excessively drunk with him? I’ve seen him down a 750 ml bottle of vodka a night, sometimes more, especially if he’s with his friends. The first time I realized he had drank that much I confronted him immediately and said he had a problem. He agreed, assured me he would cut back, not drink every night, stop seeing his old friends, basically told me everything I wanted to hear. I was so happy! Then we moved in together and empty liquor bottles started appearing in random places and I realized he was just doing his drinking in secret. I confronted him about that and he apologized profusely and again told me everything I wanted to hear. So now I don’t randomly find liquor bottles but his breath still smells like alcohol every night, he never remembers the conversations we have before bed, or what we were watching on tv, his speech is always slurred late at night and he sleeps like a rock and is literally impossible to wake up as if he is in a coma. He frequently gets so drunk he pees in our bed and since I can’t wake him up to clean up everything I have to make a bed for myself on the couch. Although he once seemed like the most kind and sincere person I’ve ever met I have now realized he doesn’t back up anything he says with actions. Even when he’s sober he simply does exactly what he wants to do and tries to manipulate other people into accepting it. I’m hoping that his manipulative behavior is caused by the alcohol and that once he gets sober we will have a beautiful life together but I don’t know how to do that and until I figure it out I don’t feel comfortable moving further with the relationship or breaking up with him. I’m stuck in relationship limbo and completely lost on what I should do next.