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lhadz 07/30/2016

My partner doesn't drink all the time, but when he does, he can't stop. He cals out of work 1, 2+ days in a row to recover, but spends that time drinking even more. I call these binges. He binges maybe twice a month, then apologizes, and is "fine" for a couple weeks, until it starts again. Long story short, I know I have to leave. But I don't know how. We live together and I love him. He just doesn't love himself, and I can't have a future with someone I feel unsafe with. How do I leave?

Cadeer 07/30/2016

I know this is so hard. I've lost count of how many times I lost my nerve.
I've never done it, but thinking of trying alanon. That may be a safe place to get some support and advice. I wish you luck, please put yourself first.

lhadz 07/31/2016

Thank you @cadeer for reminding me to put myself first. I have neglected my needs for so long so that I could take care of all of his. He hasn't been home in coming on 4 days now because of his most recent bender. I can't do it anymore.

Does anyone know of any legal resources to get out of a lease with an alcoholic/ addict?

Cadeer 07/31/2016

I think the resources vary by state. I bet if you contacted your local alanon they would know if there is help. Good luck, I'm praying for you.

HMB1179 07/31/2016

You are not alone... And you can do it. Easier said than done, I know... As I just recently removed myself and 2 kids from a similar situation about 2 weeks ago.

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