Wives of Alcoholics Community Group
A forum of healing and help for wives of alcoholics.
Hi! My name is Jackie, I’ve been a member of this group for a few years but have been inactive for a while because of some stressful changes in my life. April of 2018 I had a ( stress induced heart attack) after which I made th decision to retire a bit earlier at age 62, we sold our house, moved into a condo in a 55 +, my elderly parents ( narcissistic opiate 87 year old mother and enabler 88 year old blind dementia ridden father) are driving me crazy with their poor choices and frequent crisis. Throughout all this my husband is lost in addiction. No accountability, no remorse, no abilities of introspection. It’s amazing to me that the place of intoxication he craves, even with all its awful consequences is what he has made his “normal”. Giving up relationship with his sons, and now, willingly letting his wife slip through his fingers.
I stay for financial reasons. Divorce would leave me struggling for $$. I like my condo, community, etc. alcohol has already taken so much from me and I won’t suffer that any longer! I’m doing what I can to take my life back.
this group was so helpful to me in the past and I realized I missed coming here and sharing, giving and receiving support and understanding.
the format of this page has changed a bit but I’m pretty sure you can still friend me... feel free to I promise to respond if you are in “ that place “ and need a rant or shoulder.
Keeping us all in my heart and prayers.
Not sure how to friend you, Jackie. Anyone else out there feel alone?
This part of what you wrote resonated with me the most. I could have written something very similar:
"Throughout all this my husband is lost in addiction. No accountability, no remorse, no abilities of introspection. It’s amazing to me that the place of intoxication he craves, even with all its awful consequences is what he has made his “normal”. Giving up relationship with his sons, and now, willingly letting his wife slip through his fingers."
It is absolutey mind boggling how deep the roots of an alcoholic stronghold go.
You sound like an island, with swirling storms around you. I pray that God keeps you in his bosom and gives you the strength to deal with what comes your way. I pray that for all of us.
Eileen, you sound like me in 25 years. This life can be isolating, but you are not alone!!!!!
Wives need mentally stable men who they can rely on too. We can’t always be the sane ones. Smh.