I think you have to legally separate, contact your lawyer as soon as you can. So sorry Hope.

Advice I received while worrying incessently about our finanical future.....1) Increase your policy on your car to $1,000,000 or even $300,000, not a lot more money but a LOT of peace of mind. 2) Get your home deeded in your name, draw up the documents and get him to sign AFTER a bout of drinking where he is feeling remorseful. But the best advice I received from a GREAT counselor, was to write a plan. Physically sit down and write a plan that you will put into place when he crosses a line. The line that YOUR choose and be specific about that line and the actions you will take. Then stop worrying, the plan is your protection. You have it in writing, I have reviewed my several times and pray and hope I never have to follow through with it. But it does prevent me from thinking about it all the time. I just know that he has control of how this plays out. Remind yourself they are HIS choices. Hang in there.

Thanks. I thought I had a plan. Not the steps to complete it, but I thought if he ever drank again the line was hard and fast and we were through.

Now I am not sure. He slipped -- can he pick himself up? He says he wants to be sober, but it was getting harder, not easier as the days went by.

I need a few days to think about it and see if he will take any action to get the support he needs to get sober. This is so depressing.

Hi Hope,
It is so sad when we start to feel so hopeful only to once again be blindsided by this horrible illness. I recently came across this article and thought that you might find it helpful.

http://www.thestar.com/news/canada/2013/11/08/the_toll_of_addictions.html

Take care of yourself. Hugs