My heart breaks for you and your family and your husband. I met my husband in 1976 and have been married 39 very long years. My husband is 67 year old with multiple health issues, he has been “ alcohol free” for a year, but not what I’d call sober. My heart breaks for him as well. He is a shadow of what would have been his potential.
I’ve stayed mainly for financial reasons, but I know, beyond a Shadow of a doubt that it imperative to create a happy and satisfying life for yourself!
I send you my heart and support.

Wow. You have a lot on your shoulders and have had for a long time. I think it’s great if you’re able to emotionally and mentally detach from your AH. Living together and taking care of him is one thing. Living your life the way you want is another. You go!

Sending my love and support

Hubby now has very high iron levels. He has now been referred to haematologist. A dr called him and has been sent for a ct scan and more blood tests. This week he has a Fibroscan. It would appear that he liver has suddenly deteriorated. Normal readings are 44 times 147, his reading is over 300, so his liver appears to be failing. They are also looking at a genetic disorder that causes high iron levels. We are now awaiting to hear what that scan results are and what his prognosis is.

His drinking is not good. He has 4 to 6 cans of cider and then tops it up with white wine. Last night he topped up with a bottle and a quarter of white wine.

He cannot sleep at night but sleeps during the day. His neuropathy is getting worse and he is very unsteady on his feet. He barely eats and weighs under 9 stone. The last few days he has been complaining that he does not feel right.

Roll on getting the Fibroscanand extra blood tests done this week and then getting the results of his most recent tests. I am hoping that he will get some sort of definite diagnosis, so that we all know where we stand

It sounds like your husband is rapidly declining. I am sorry. But, at this point there is nothing you can do - the damage is already done. His body and organs (heart esp) are deteriorating because he doesn't get adequate nutrition. And now cirrhosis. The prognosis does not look good...

Hubby got a call from liver specialist 3/12/2020 to say that the blood tests, CT scan and fibroscan suggest that he now has Cirrhosis. The ct scan also showed that he has some samll lymph nodes in his lungs, so they would repeat the ct scan in six months? Due to the high iron levels they are also concerned that he also has haemochromatosis, so they are testing him for that as well. They gave him an appointment to discuss it all 17/12/2020, but this got cancelled by the hospital and rearranged to 28/01/2021.

Over xmas hubbys condition has been getting worse. The neuropathy means he is very wobbly on his feet and cannot walk far without stumbling/tripping/falling. Tremors are present all day everyday. Hubby has become very short of breath. They did more blood tests 5/1/2021. a doctor called to say prostate and kidneys were fine, but he would like hubby to have another liver scan. The doctor then went on to say that he is much more worried about hubbys lungs, so is going to arrange an urgent ct scan. CT scan appt has arrived for Monday 18th Jan

Then on Tuesday hubby was having a really bad day and was complaining that his stomach was hurting. Hubby said he did not feel well. About 5pm he had a blackout, but would not let me call his doctor or an ambulance. By the time it got to about 7pm hubby let me call 111 and after speaking to hubby they sent an ambulance. The ambulance took hubby to hospital but he really did not want to go, as he is very scared that if he goes in to hospital that he will never come out again. Hubby was very scared and anxious seeing the very ill people in hospital. Hubby had some blood tests, but then discharged himself, which I was really annoyed about.

The paramedics said that his eyes have started going jaundice too

I dont think that he is going to last much longer. The neuropathy is really bad, he is very short of breath, complaining of abdomen pain, but still drinking everyday. Hopefully the liver specialists will be able to give us more info 28/1/2021

How do i know when he is near the end?

Prayers

So sorry that all of this is happening to you. Hoping you are coping and wondering how your husband is.