I haven't posted on here for a while, just kind of embarrassed of what's going on in my life, I guess. 

My ABF has been basically putting our relationship on the back burner for the past month and a half while he puts most of his effort into his relationship with a female friend from high school. They text constantly. She lives thousands of miles away and although he did go to see her last weekend and I was worried that something would happen between them, I actually don't think anything did. I think he just likes talking to her because she'll listen no matter what and doesn't judge him, while I have basically avoided contact with him when he's drunk as much as possible. 

But whatever happened when he was there is beside the point. He's been putting little effort into our relationship. He's been having a rough time at work, hates his job, he's mixed race and people in our area are racist. He's been depressed the entire time we've been together. But he wants to try to figure things out while he's on this trip. But he comes back more depressed than ever and said he's upset he didn't figure anything out. How would he do that when he was drunk the entire time?

I had a talk with him when he got back about boundaries and respecting me and showing me that he cares with his actions.

Now we're at his parents for Thanksgiving and he drank last night and stared drinking first thing this morning. Now we're going out to lunch with them and I'm going to have to make sure he doesn't start any political fights or arguments about religion. And then I'll have to deal with whatever drunk drama or depressed rants he goes on for the rest of the day. 

I still love him so much and I feel for him that he can't stand to face life without drinking but I think it's time to leave. I just don't know how to do it. We've been together for three years and live together and I don't have much money or any friends or family in the area. 

I'm just not sure what to do.