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suemagoo 06/02/2018

Been a while since I have been on here I think I've been trying to see will it get better when it has only got 10 times worse , And now I feel like I'm drowning and don't know what to do. We have at 1 year old and teenager we have been together 15 years and married 5 years . When we first got together I knew my husband "like few drinks but didn't have a problem" It wasn't until our first wedding anniversary that I realised my husband actually had a problem , I've tried to talk to him about help but to no avail he was a functional alcoholic but lately I'm thinking it's just alcoholics he's drink driving to and from work and his work is suffering and the only reason he hasn't got fired is he works for my father who's very fond of him - the weekends are the worst always causes an argument when drinking and another one

when he just wants to go back to the bar , I have no energy left I'm so frustrated and fed up his mother and brother are comming down tommrow to "talk sense to him " but he's refusing AA and won't admit he has a problem so I really don't know where to go from here - I just know this situation isn't healthy for my children -

EEEE 06/02/2018

Sorry you are dealing with this. It is so hard when they won't admit there is a problem. I constantly hear "it will be fine" from my AH. They think they are in control but I don't think they are. Hopr your family can get through to him. I've tried to get AH friends to get through but they too are drinkers so its tough. Such a helpless feeling. Don't have kids but imagine that adds a whole different array of concerns. Sorry if no advice but can relate

suemagoo 06/03/2018

Thanks it's just great to know I'm not the only one going thro this it's hard when you don't feel you can talk to about it - his family have backed out of comming today "their not around" but my parents are comming down and hopefully he will listen to them

pietro84 06/04/2018

If your father is fond of him, as you say, then he is the perfect person to approach your husband and let him know he is concerned.

If I were your father, I would sure want my new grandchild growing up in a home that was stable, healthy, and authentic.

I am an adult child of an alcoholic and a recovering alcoholic myself. My last drink was 21 years ago yesterday.

suemagoo 06/04/2018

Thanks yeh my father had word with him on Sunday and he promised him he would join AA in Thursday that's when the meeting is I hope he keeps to his promise because at the minute he's still drinking

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