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SageLife
SageLife

I was almost married to an alcoholic.  I finally had to leave over 2 months ago.  Our dream was to travel the country side to deliver rvs and see America.  Sadly, he has a terrible drinking problem and I still think he's drinking but cant be sure-there are some alcoholics that go cold turkey but I think very few-  I received a text from him this morning-he finally got a truck and has started delivering the RV's.  He's on his way to Niagra Falls.  I just sent a short text back and told him to be safe and that I am happy for him.  That was all.  


He shattered my dream and my heart is heavy and I have closed myself off to many.  Just trying to focus on myself.  But, everytime he texts it reminds me of what might have been.  Not sure what to do.  Advice?

loublue22
loublue22
SageLife, while we don’t know your exact situation, you’re here, on this site. You know the answer to your question. It sucks. If you sense a red flag, listen to it! I wish I would have - 15 years ago. I pushed my thoughts and feelings aside bc i “just knew” he’d get better. He didn’t. It’s been a little worse each year. It doesn’t get better. It doesn’t. Stop the madness now while you can. Step away, work your way out. You deserve the BEST. go on, walk away.
Panda2017
Panda2017
Agree with the previous post. Listen to the red flag and save yourself from a life of codependance and hurt. I met him when I was 18 (now 41) with a 7 year old and I often wish I'd mer someone normal without an alcohol addiction so I can lead a normal life insread of constantly womdering when the nexr binge/nastiness will be. I love him very much when he's soner but absolutely despise him when he's drunk. Simply ask yourself if you're up to this because it certainly is anything but an easy ride...