My husband and I have been together for the last 14 yrs. He drank a bit when we first met, but so did 90% of the guys in the small city we live in. I noticed the drinking became heavier and heavier. We have 2 children and I worry about the environment they are in. He isnt physical at all and when he's drunk he can make rude remarks, without meaning them, but it is the falling down, passing out by 9 that isnt ok. I love him and he is one of my best friends, but I fear he wont change. I have talked, cried, screamed and begged. I dont know what to do know except throw him out for a few months and show him I mean business. I'm i being too harsh? I cant talk to anyone, because they have no clue what it is like.

Thank you in advance.