Sorry for your loss...it isn't easy, and I really don't have any advice to offer, as I also lost my husband about 6 weeks ago...he was 59, but I am 45. We had been together nearly 22 years, and raised a son, who is 19. All I can tell you is that this is a good site to come and let your feelings out. I don't know why these things happen, either. It's so unfair.
For what it's worth, know that you are not alone in this. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

wendimac, thank you for your reply. We have only been married for 3 1/2 years but we have been together for 12. It is comforting to know that this is a good site to come to. Thank you! And I am also sorry for your loss.

Hi jenbird! No you are not alone. First I am so sorry for your loss! Here on DS you will find people who are experiencing exactly what you are at this very moment. It has been 3 months since my husband passed away. The first few weeks were an absolute fog. I really just survived. How? I don't know. Just existed I think. I would come on this site and read the messages of support, gentle words and truly caring people. I credit these members for helping me in my darkest hour. Come here as often as you need and ask anything and vent all you like. One question that can not be answered is why did it happen. Oh how we all wish we knew the answer.

Hello Jenbird1, I am 44 and I also lost my husband suddenly on November 22, 2014. He went out for his morning run and never returned, we were married for 19 years, met in middle school and he told me then that I would be his wife. We have two children (11 and 13). It also took me 12 weeks to receive results from the autopsy, this is a long rough journey, come here as often as you need to it has really helped me. You are not alone.

Jenbird, so sorry for the loss of your precious husband. You are not alone, though I know it feels like it. I joined a support group and it helps to be with people going through grief. You have three children and a grandson, and I know they bring you comfort. Just take it one day at a time or it can get very overwhelming. Many hugs,

Jenbird1, I am so sorry. My kids are 19 and 20 and I just lost my wife 3 months ago. The words that kept going through my head were "This wasn't supposed to happen!" Well meaning people told me various things, like "you are strong, you will get through this" and "you have many happy memories" and "she would have wanted you to be happy". It's all true, but not really helpful at the time, for me anyway. All I can say is that I know it hurts. Please be good to yourselves. Take one day at at time. One minute at a time.

Widowhood comes in many ages, shapes, sizes, and gender. No matter how old or young you are. Its so very painful. I am so sorry for your pain.. hugs..

Jen . . . so sorry for your recent loss. So sorry you had to find and join us. :( However, you've come to a wonderful site of "family" that will help see you through this horrid grief journey as much as we can. Reach out anytime . . . there's always an ear to listen or word of advice to be given. You will never feel alone here. Hugs, Dayna

Hello Jen,

Very sorry for your loss. I lost my wife 3 months ago. She was 54. "How do you make through this?" you asked. By one day, one minute, a time. By trying to eat, sleep, and do some exercise. By coming to this website. These were part of what I have been doing to survive. The grief is long and hard, so be gentle to yourself, but you will get through. Hugs from Hong Kong, Tiger

Jen..so sorry for your loss..sending hugs

I am so sorry for your sudden loss.
You came to a good place. We are here for you.
Thinking of you......Sandra

Welcome Jen.....I am very sorry for your loss. Come here often and just vent if you need to, so much good advice here.

Some days you just have to let the grief take over and other days you can manage to put one foot in front of the other.

This place is like a family to me and many days the only thing I could hang on to were the words of those who walked this lonely road before me.

Wishing you peace and comfort.

Hugs
Jen

Thank you all for your kind words. I am so sorry for all of your losses. I am so relieved I found this site! slimbear you are right. People tell me I am strong. he is in a better place, he would want you to be happy etc. I know all this but it doesn't help. My kids and grandson are definitely my comfort. I have a great support group also of other family and friends but trying to explain how I feel to them is imposable.

Jenbird, I'm glad you found us. This is one group where you don't have to explain how you feel...we know. Hope things will go as well as they can.

Hi all. Hope everyone is having the best day they can. Mine has been up and down with some anxiety. I do have a question. I was told that going through my husbands clothes is a good idea sooner then latter. How do you all feel about this subject?
Thanks!