Hi Carmine. I lost my love just over a year. I appreciate that you are trying to move forward in life. Don't let this dating experience discourage you. Some people get it, some people don't, so what.
You have a bit of the empty-nest syndrome, as taking care of your wife must be part of your daily routine, and you now lost that routine.

Anyway, no helpful advices but just a couple of thoughts I had reading your thread.

That's most helpful. I was gearing my thoughts more towards how I m pushing people in general away not necessarily just a new gf but touche` regardless. Empty nest yes, I don't want to admit it but that's exactly right. On top of things I'm a great ball of energy so that only compounds things for others.

Carmine, I'm so sorry to hear about your wife's passing. Don't feel like you're pushing everyone away, you just need time to let the grieving process happen. That's a part of it, just like the times you'll cry for no reason or get angry or depressed. It's something that we're all going or have gone through. Only you will know when/if it's time to start another relationship but don't feel that you have to force it to happen. Friends and family may think you need to "get back on the horse" and try again but it will happen in it's own time. Take joy in the time that you had with your wife and when you think of one of the happy times with her, let it lift you up from the darkness and doubt. We're all with you brother. Peace and strength to you.

Yessir, agreed. "Time takes Time"...almost as good as Confucius say "Woman who live in glass house...should...shower in basement." haha Thanks for the encouragement and reinforcement to what I have inside. Bless ya- Carm58

So very very sorry to hear of your loss. I am new at this widowhood thing but I have lost both of my parents and I do know that eventually the pain is not as severe. Of course, losing a spouse is very different from losing a parent. I hope it gets easier for you.

Thanks, Lucky. Time does take time but we should compare ourselves, at least I think to others, because that just makes us complacent at best. I am trying to focus on making every tomorrow better than every today. If we can smile at least once today we can have a small goal to smile twice tomorrow. A broken heart last forever but so do wonderful memories and spoken words. Keep your head up and do great things- many people know you can!! :) Bless you.