anger is not as honest of an emotional reaction to our grief, as just plain PAIN is. so if you were distracted by feeling that anger, it would only postpone the need to turn and face how much you really hurt.
anger is a defense mechanism against a much deeper pain.
I have gone through deeply hurtful things in life, and let myself get sidetracked by anger from time to time. it does nothing, except serve as a temporary, and not-as-healthy, shield to feeling hurt.
Barbara.

I'm not agreeing with the anger thing other than use it as a release?
Scream at a bush or anything. But seriously, finding someone to blame and be angry with will still find you where you are. They do say the anger stage is part of the grief process...I'm 2 years and never went through that stage. We all go through this grief at different speeds...the one common piece is its going to hurt, we are going to cry and we need to let the tears flow to come out the other side.

I am angry. I am so angry at life and cancer for taking my Rob away from me. I have held this anger in all along as it did no good when he was alive. But now that he is gone I am livid. But there is no one to be angry with. Nothing tangible. Just the cancer gods.

My tactic has been to put on loud music and go for a walk. I walk until I am not angry anymore. Last one took 3 hours!

Interesting......When I'm angry I eat. At first, when Morey got sick, I couldn't eat, I was so scared and confused. Then he passed and I was so deeply saddened, again, I couldn't eat. I kept losing weight, I could afford to, but I was becoming ill from lack of food and water.

Then, my sadness turned to anger. Anger at my not seeing the symptoms sooner and saving his life. Anger at my not spending more time with him.......yes, this looks like guilt too! Anger and guilt have now become my triggers and it seems I need to eat to comfort me.

I have now created a new problem for me. It's a cycle and until normalcy hits I guess I'm on it!!!

Roz

Anger is just one of many uncharacteristic emotions I've been feeling ...somedays I'm so raw I may as well be an uzi gun with my mouth...a friend of mine gave me one of those big plastic bats to beat my bed and pillows like a bad child having a tantrum another friend suggested to get in my car with all the windows up and scream as loud as I can ...both I've tried seems to give alittle relief...

I'm angry but not at God. But I am angry at the pain management doctors who my wife trusted all these years to advise her own her pain medication. Over the years they damaged her organs and not one time did any doctor suggest or accept any suggestion to look into any other form of intervention to help with her pain control. This would have meant less prescriptions and not as many doctor visits. So now our plans are gone thanks to not all but a select few pain management doctors making a great living off other's suffering. Don't mean to sound bitter. My faith is getting me thru it and some day there will be accountability come into play. God has it under control.
Peace, Tim