I don't think so, only three months for me however I don't think the feeling goes away, things trigger it, you just learn to avoid these things. Younger people seem to go on with a new life, not so easy for those of us a little older who were married so many years you do become one. God bless.

Hi, Coolchenill, I also lost my wife to ALS which she had for seven years. I am a few days away from six months without her and I miss her very much. I used to think that I would be over the pain of losing her in a few months but now I expect that things will get better with time but I will always miss her. I know that this is a hard day for you so I am sending you a hug. Dan

Hi Chenill: Your post really rang true with me. At one year I still did not want to live. I could not see how life without my husband would ever be worth living. At the second year mark it was a small bit better but not a lot. I am now almost at three years and life is now starting to feel like it is worth living again.
I still miss Nick. I still cry at times. And many time I still feel oh so alone. But honestly, IT IS GETTING BETTER. I thought it never would. Life is still not what it was with Nick but life is not the living Hell that it was at first.
The road is long with lots of ups and way too many downs. But in time you do learn to live along side of the loss and grief. It is hard but you can do it.
Many wishes to you for strength and healing.

I am at 17 months and I still have grief spells. And the triggers can be anything. I have learned to cope with them, and not let them rule my ability to live life.
Everyone says it takes time. For me, it has been a process of understanding who I am as a single man, accessing my needs and goals, and planning a strategy to achieve those goals.
You can make it, but I know how hard it is.

hi, sorry for your loss. It is almost 1 year for me also. He was bedridden for years. Mentally, and physically, he has been gone for over 3 years. Now that I can look back of how he was in the early years, I miss that man. I don't miss the one he became. We were together for 49 years. While he was sick, it pushed the memory of the other guy, back, and back. the longer he has been gone, the memory of the sick guy, gets pushed back, and I miss you young guy. Does this make any sense at all

I think it take a long time of going thru waves and I don't think we truly ever stop hurting from time to time. I thought I was doing so well up until a month ago and now at 11 months since my wife passed away of cancer and I seem to be reliving it all over again and just want to crawl into a dark hole. I guess its just another wave of heart to work thru and I don't think it will be the last but I hope the pain will lesson as time goes on. Take care of your self and stay strong.

i think you learn better coping mechanisms but the waves of pain will never end. i'm not far enough in the process though to really know.

It has been 14 months for me and I know that the anniversary of my husband's death was a difficult one. My body began reacting before my mind even remembered it. The stress was overwhelming for a few months. Now things are calming down a little but definitely not normal yet. I have been reading from several people on here that three years seems to be an average time that life seems to become more meaningful again. I am looking forward to that very much. It is no fun to be carrying this huge weight with me every where I go.

I believe what everyone else here is saying. My counselor told me that I would always miss my husband and I would even have time that I would feel the sadness and loneliness. She told me that as time goes on those feels are not as strong but they will be there. She said that even if I found a new relationship, I would still have feelings for my husband. That's because I would still be with my husband if he had not died.

I'm at 28 months and still fight the pain and loss every day. It may get easier but life will never be the same. It will be different, maybe better in some ways and worse in others. we just have to keep on going.
Hugs,
JoAnn

It's been a year for me. After reading many of the posts over a period of time, I don't believe the pain ever leaves completely. It might fade, but it doesn't leave completely. It seems like we learn to live a life around it.

The feeling will change more than being over the feelings of loss. Youhave llost so much more than a partner in life. You lost your life as you planned it. It was stolen from both of you. There's never a getting over that. What you can do is build a new plan for your future. I know so well that a new plan is not what you want, but there is no choice but to begin again where you are and know we're here to help. Hugs, Sharon

Hello coolchenill , my husband also passed away on 01/23/13 from a short battle with Cancer. He was 52. I don`t think it is so much a matter of getting over it as it is a matter of learning to live with it.
Yesterday would have been a much more difficult day had I stayed home but instead I was kept busy from 9am -9pm as our 20 year daughter had planned a memorial fundraiser to honour her father on the 1 year anniversary of her dad passing. for the first part of the day we did have moments of pain but the turn out of people that came and honoured my husband while helping out to raise money for Cancer research help us through. Now on to the next phase of this journey..