My heart goes out to you. Yes everything that happens and everything we do is now alone. I know that feeling so well having no family. I don't have any answers.....just hugs! Darlene

I don't hate going to the doctor alone for my own needs, but I hate going because I used to take my husband every month, and there are so many triggers associated with that.
I hope you are feeling better very soon, Mary...

Sorry...I hope you get better soon Nicker07...I was reading another post a couple of minutes ago and got a little mixed up...

I've thought about that possibility, too. I was working in the barn a week ago and nearly fell off the ladder. I realized how alone I am. My kids check on my daily but I could have laid there a good while before anyone noticed.

My husband died of cancer. I also wonder who would help take care of me if I got cancer. My kids are awesome but it is not the same as having your spouse when you are sick.

This is a really tough topic.

I hope you feel better soon.

I had hip replacement surgery 6 months after losing my husband and coming home from the hospital was frightening. I never felt so alone in my life. I had 2 dogs at the time which gave me comfort, but how would I take them out. My children helped, but the fear remained. We do grow stronger and find a way. Hugs, Sharon

I sprained my ankle pretty bad while out working one day. I called the doctor who sent me to the hospital for Xrays. I really didn't think a whole lot about it to be honest. My husband had been sick for so long that I had just gotten used to taking myself to the doctor. I do think about what would happen if I had surgery and my doctor casually told me I could go to rehab if I had to have any kind of surgery. Not a very pleasant thought but I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

Nessie from KY

I slipped on the snow one winter and sprained my ankle pretty badly and was concerned that I had broken a bone because I heard a pop. I called my daughter and had her take me to the doctor the next morning because, yes, there is just something unsettling about having to do that by yourself.

I wonder often what I would do if anything serious happened to me requiring medical care. It is scary knowing that there is no one that can do those things for you in the same way that a spouse would. My daughter is still having children so I just don't feel that I could ask anything like that of her for quite a few years. One of the many things that makes our aloneness even more painful.

A couple of months after my wife died I had a cardiac scare due to a bad combo of meds. My local doctor sent me to an Er 90 miles away since their cardiac care was so superior to what we got locally. I was always the strong one, but I started crying. Going down there without my wife scared the hell out of me. I found a friend to drive me, but I felt lost and alone like I never felt before.

Yup, understand. I recently broke my leg in the house and thankfully I happened to have company staying over. Otherwise, there is NO WAY I could have gotten to the phone to call 911. I would have laid there until help came and that could have been days since I generally don't have company. Yes, it is frightful when these things happen. But they could happen at any age to anyone. I am simply grateful that in my circumstance I did have the help here when needed. Not sure there are any easy answers, other than to not over-think or project the worst case scenarios and be grateful for our blessings today. Round of hugs, D

good topic and I think about it often too. I am alone here, no family living in my immediate area except a sibling over 100 miles away. So need to depend on girlfriends and friends. At a support group, we discussed this issue. I guess always to have a plan B if something major happens. I try not to think about my final days and who will take care of me. All we have is today... We gave our spouse the final gift of love to take care of them so hopefully the universe will do the same for us.

Oh! My! This is something that goes through my mind all the time. There are those "Life Alert" necklace/buzzer type gadgets that you can wear around your neck that are connected to a 911 dispatcher. I've given that great thought.

Mostly because I have my beautiful dog "Horton" who I don't want to be left alone with me for days, [before someone realized that I had fallen and can't get up!] If he missed a meal, I'm afraid he'd start eating me!

I've NEVER been alone......I've either had my family or I've had Morey to take care of me or at least to bounce ideas off of.

My children live hours away from me.......I know they'd be here for me within a few hours and I'd be taken care of but it's not the same as your partner.

Nothing will ever be the same!

Roz

Roz....I worry about that all of the time....if something happened who would find me for days....would my son just think I was out shopping?'

I have bouts with kidney stones and I dread having one alone....guess I just call 911 for transport and then my son.

I just hate this new life.....

Yes, I have to do most things alone and it bothers me.

Yes, good topic for those that have lost their loved one. I took Larry to the VA many times before he passed last year & I remember he would say out of the blue "I don't know what I would do without you."
And I would say "Babe you would do the same for me because of our love for each other." Now he is gone & I do have family close by, but it's not nor will ever be the same .....

I agree with Roz..... I hate this new life !!!!!