Chest pain should always be taken seriously. Please have your health checked. What's the worse that could happen? Well you've had that happen but medically they might say anxiety in which you can say, no shit Sherlock! But you should not second guess when it comes to your health. Please have that looked into. Take care of you!

The first thing is that none of the pain is normal. Something devastating has happened in your life and your body is in shock. More than likely it is anxiety and severe stress. But see your doctor anyway. Heart attacks can happen under severely stressful situations. If nothing else you may get help in dealing with this to calm your nerves and your anxiety. The crushing pain I have had. My breath becoming shallow I have had that to. But didn't last for long periods of time. Just see your doc. Going thru this, unless you've been thru it before is uncharted territory. Most important is to take care of yourself. Don't rush yourself. Take your time. Don't think about tomorrow. Just focus one day at a time for awhile. After some time the pain will dull. May not go away but it will dull. Don't let anyone tell you it's time you move on. Everyone is different. You will heal in your own way. And you don't get over it. You learn ways to live with it. Your husband didn't chose to go away he was taken so it's not something to easily accepted. Just take care of you and do what you need to get thru. Reach out to those who have been there, it really helps.
Take care.
Peace, Tim

Soulshine, I am so sorry for your loss.... Please take care of yourself. Talk to a doc.... My kids texted me until I made the appointment (for next week).. I can relate to easy things that I used to be able to do.. Many are now hard, I miss steps... Sigh and the gut wrenching pain is what I have had also.
One minute at a time, one hour at a time....
Blessing, Peace, Hope and Prayers for all that are hurting this morning... Mark

Hello,
How you are feeling now is quite normal. My husband passed away July 28, 2016, and he did so much for me. I was a great husband, and best friend. Sometimes we don't realize how much we take the other person for granted because we just assume they will also be there with us. My husband cooked dinner for me, did the laundry, drove me anywhere I wanted to go. We traveled, went to the movies like teenagers, dancing, casinos, and just about everything. So I'm missing a lot because now I have to do everything by myself. You just feel lost rite now with no sense of direction. I know who you feel, because anyone who has lost a spouse will feel the same why. The sadness in your heart never leaves, you just eventually try to focus on other things to take your mind off of the pain for a little while. I try to stay busy a lot, and I work 12 hours a day.

Hi Soulshine

When my first husband died, I felt the pain you are describing. It was unbearable and it was crushing and it was hard to breath or to function but I had a business to run and two young children to look after. I learned meditation and deep breathing and that helped a lot.

Your loss is quite fresh so it does not surprise me that you are experiencing such tremendous pain. It comes with the loss.

Give time, time. The loss will always be there, but the pain will diminish.

Hugs
Anna(lifegoeson)

Oh hon I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Please take care of you, see a doctor. I felt the same way about everyday tasks, I couldn't even work the coffee maker after my wife passed. You'll get better and stronger with each day that passes and we'll be here to help you along. Peace and strength to you.

Yes sadly you describe, what we all are faced with in the first few months or so. One day at a time. I questioned if I should even be driving at times, my mind was dull, any paper work that had to be done, I took it to the government office and had them check it over before filing it. My phrase was always "I can not be trusted to even print out my name and address". They were so helpful. I retired at 61 for all the same reasons when my husband went into care. At the 6th month mark now I have regained alot of those skills, thankfully. So it will come back, just take each day as it comes. A Councillor once told me, "when you are having thoughts that take away from your driving concentration" Tell yourself to put "that thought" on the shelf until you get home. It did help.

I question my driving too..but it will get easier with time. I have been reading lots of stuff and coming on here with real people helps me the most..there usually is someone on. I still get tingling sensations im starting to think its my husband. Its been 6 months for me now.

The forgetfulness is also normal. You are in a state off shock. The brain gets foggy and thank God it does. We couldn't takes this all at once. Don't try to do too much. Just let the tears wash away the pain. I used to cry until I was exhausted, then sleep a while and do it all again. You will learn to cope with it. Just takes lots of time. Hang in there
Rachel

I am so very sorry for your loss. Yes, the pain is so very difficult. You should get checked by a doctors but grief hurts. That heaviness in my chest( my niece describes it as the lead vest you wear for dental x-rays) did begin to dissipate after about 6-8 months. That was my story, everyone is different. I go back and forth, more good days now than bad almost a year later. At first I couldn't be alone or even think of my husband, the pain was overwhelming. Then I just kept myself so busy to avoid the bad feelings. Now I can finally confront my feelings and allow the sadness to take over sometimes and ride it out. This site has been so helpful. You need to know people understand, that someone feels your pain. It's impossible to explain to people who haven't been there. God Bless and I wish you peace on your journey

The pain could be any number of things, but should be checked out with your doctor. I had similar pains, and realized mine was at least partially caused by pulled muscles from sobbing so much. I cried so much that I hurt myself. Which seemed very weird but unavoidable. Remember to drink extra water - it will help counteract the crying and the dehydration that causes. Dehydration is a big factor is the lack of concentration, fuzzy thinking, muscle cramps (I had wicked charley-horse type cramps), and sleep disturbance. Drinking extra water helps. Oh, and as for driving, I was so out of it that I drove back to the cemetery with the emergency brake on the whole way and couldn't understand where the burning smell was coming from. I couldn't be trusted behind the wheel for sometime.

I am sorry you had to end up here, but wanted you to know you are welcome here.

Love and Hugs,
Martha, co-Community Leader

I am so very sorry for your loss. I am a new widow as well and I think what you are describing is probably normal grief but I would go to the doctor to get checked out, just to be sure. Sylvia