meg... I searched online for support group, and landed here. I would have never made it without this group. I also referred a male friend to here, he came, read the posts and found us too depressing. His wife died in June, he's already in Love with another ... Every one has different times... Give it your best shot.... Fire away!!!... Sandee

Thank you so much. I will call her tonight. Hope she still remembers who I am!
Lots of love and hugs to you!
meggyk

My friends husband passed away the week of Thanksgiving. I texted her a poem as soon as I heard. She called me immediately, we had not spoken for 19 years, and thanked me as I was the only one who contacted her that had walked in her shoes. I text her every couple of weeks with a poem and to let her know I am thinking of her. She usually will call me back and want to talk. I did give her the information to DS, I don't know if she has visited or not.
If it is to soon for her she will let you know. My Sister would not quit calling/texting and I did not want to have contact with her so I let her know, bad blood.
Hugs, Sandi

I started DS with caregivers group. I really thought I was going crazy during my caregiver time. I found some really wonderful people and I still peek in and say hi to them. I am in grief counseling but this group is much better. We all lost our spouses, some sudden, some it was a walk down the longest road in the world. - Hugs Arlene

Give her the info about the group, and let her know she can just check in and read if she doesn't feel comfortable joining or posting. Some people "lurk" for a few weeks or a few months before actually joining and posting.

I joined DS a couple of weeks after Cliff died. I searched on the internet and read a post by someone whose husband died the same way at almost the exact same hour as Cliff, and my first thought was, "That person will understand what I'm going through."

Each person handles it a little differently depending on their situation. Do let her know we would welcome her, and that she can remain anonymous - that's why we have screen names. I never use my full name here. That might be important to her as her nerves will be pretty raw right now, as you know.

I think it showed a lot of compassion on your part to be so willing to help even in your own pain. Kudos for that!

Love and Hugs,
Martha

meg.... id let her know your loss, and how youve been coping, also just tell her, that you didn't know how or the way to invite her on this website, but just give it to her written down, and when she isn't in that numbness, she may come on here and join all of us. we would love to have her join. good luck, and will say a prayer that she finds us somehow and someday.. much love and big hugs carla

I also found it online on night reaching out and hoping for some support to get me thru this ordeal. I was very glad I found it, obviously, as I read and post all the timeI would contact her soon just to say you are there for her and perhaps meet for dinner one night and guide her towards this siteHope you and your friend also find your way,,c

I found the site online two months after my husband died, and it was so comforting and reassuring that I was "normal" and would get through my grief. I've given the information to three other women in the last two years. I've seen no evidence that they have used the site but maybe they want to be anonymous from even me! I would understand. I think one of the best things about this group is that you can lurk or participate anonymously for as long as you want to.

I love you all! I can not express enough how much i appreciate everyone .I smile, laugh and cry everyday. Your words, advise and experience ! I hope she does join.
Much Love and Peace to all,
meggyk

At first I went to a counseling group and found it to be judgy and clicky. There's a safety net here of anonymity. It allows you to express yourself and not feel judged. If someone's rolling their eyes you can't see it!

Roz

Roz... lol... that is so true
Sandee

I was referred here, and I am so thankful for it. It took the a couple of days before I checked it out.
Rachel

I have been on DS for my own health issues, then was in different groups searching for support to deal with issues with my husband, who had some serious alcohol problems. I was here within a couple of days after he passed (a friend of mine from another support group was coming here), I think I may have mentioned it to ajm1959 when I was in the caregivers area.
What you can always say is, if it is too much to deal with at first, return some months later. I had to do that with my health issues, and it worked well.

I have shared that I belong here and how valuable it has been for my survival after losing my husband. I still tell people how much after being helped it means to me to play a small part in witnessing others go from utterly despair to find a purpose in life again.

For me, I don't see it was promoting Dailystrength, but offering them a lifeline to the future. Sharon

this is my first time on here. I heard about it from a friend of my Mother's. I have read a few posts. and am very happy to know, especially that the "brain fog" is normal. I lost my husband approximately 7 weeks ago and I feel so lost and scared and alone. I don't know yet how it is all going to work itself out. but reading some folks post that have been there, is comforting. I don't know if I would have been ope to it any sooner. but I would suggest it to her. I could possibly be the lifeline she needs. My faith tells me that everything happens for a reason. Best wishes to you and her.