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What specifically do you do to get out of desolati

edithbathgate
edithbathgate
I was listing some things I do to get me out of the "death spiral" of greif. I wonder what specific things others have found that help them, at least some of the time? We all know that sittiing alone and brooding is an invitation to desolation. There has to be some of that, but aren't there things we can do to help ourselves?
tskks
tskks
My vote goes to being out in nature as well. There is something about being outdoors that speaks to me of God's majesty and perfect plan.It seems all of life's big questions are answered while observing on levels we are not even fully conscious of, the intricate design and wonder of all creation in it's perfect form,balance and rhythm. Big Bang my Butt!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with Paula.Get yourself a pet.I have a darling little shitz-zu by the name of rocky.In the first year rocky and I would take long walks together.Even now when I feel a little lonely feeling his warm little furry body snuggled next to me on the bed comforts me.
I think the other suggestions too just try to get out once in awhile,even it is only walmart.
Hugs to you Sadie
deleted_user
deleted_user
well i either play golf or fish, really anything outside usually makes me feel better. Just get an activity you have liked in the past and just DO it. I have to say also that i have knowingly medicated myself with activity so maybe i shouldn't give any advice!! haha

Norm
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was fortunate to have something called "praisercize" at a nearby church... every Mon. /Wed ./ Fri. I went and did Step Aerobics or Circuit weight training to Praise Music. It got me up, out and worshipping God! And with other people!!
I find if I have something planned for each day, I felt I had a purpose to get up and get moving. I would plan lunches with friends, Bible Studies, etc.
I would also spend time each day in the Bible and claiming God's precious promises... I know He has a plan and a purpose.... and I have a HOPE for my future when I read God's promises!!
That has helped me and blessed me immensely!!

Hugs, Linda