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Truhal 12/25/2010

I laugh when I think of this, but most of my life I've been somewhat like Scrooge when it comes to holiday festivities.--I never send cards, never wrap presents, rarely put up a tree. In short, my Christmas spirit left when I became an adult.

That is, until this year and I'm totally blaming my husband on this one. You see, I think he forgot and left his Christmas spirit here. And I found it. That can be the only explanation for the non-Scrooge like way I'm acting this year. Lets see: I put up my Christmas tree three weeks ago. Decorated the house with poinsettas, wrapped all the presents, turned on Christmas music, watched 4 holiday films, including Scrooge. And had Christmas dinner here at my house in front of the fireplace..

Those who know me are shocked.

And I thought I wouldn't get anything from my husband this year.

Tru

deleted_user 12/25/2010

Ah-Hah !!! he left you the best gift of all... he left a huge piece of himself in your heart.
now that is what i call Christmas!!!
huge holiday hug
judi

NewRoadsForMe 12/25/2010

What a wonderful revelation you have had! So glad this was a happy outcome and you have a wonderful attitude!

missmyhero 12/26/2010

What a great gift that he left you!

It is funny how we have taken on some of the aspects of our spouses personalities, or some of their habits.

I now drink black room temperature coffee, eat peanut butter and cucumbers, laugh more, have become more relaxed and patient...(who would have ever figured THAT one), and have more of a sense of direction than I ever had before. All things that were more him than me.

It's nice to realize the gifts that they left us. Thanks for the reminder.

hugs...
-Diana

deleted_user 12/26/2010

Sounds like the perfect inheritance. Glad you found the spirit!

Lininsocal 12/26/2010

Sounds like Christmas future to me...

deleted_user 12/26/2010

I think that's wonderful! Now hold on to tight that new found Spirit!

deauxgirl 12/26/2010

It's wonderful you found your Christmas spirit, through your husband. I think we all take some of our spouses with us. My husband was a neat freak, and a health nut. Now I think of him, when I clean the house and when deciding on what to eat. The Christmas spirit is by far the best of the best.
Paula

deleted_user 12/26/2010

This is a beautiful thought. I'm going to search every day for John's spirit in me.

marjoe 12/26/2010

I'm proud for you, Tru - that sounds really lovely. And really comfy, I might add! Hugs, Marsha

deleted_user 12/27/2010

I just could not put up a tree this year. But I do have my Cockatiel, Sunshine and I went and adopted a little dog to keep me company. I am just glad that Christmas is behind me now. I do hope this gets better.

Pat

deleted_user 12/27/2010

I LOVE THIS POST........................AND SEEING THE CHANGES IN YOUR SPIRIT OVER THE RECENT MONTHS HAS BEEN A GIFT TO ME TOO.................................
hugs
L

michaelbmanning 12/27/2010

I also dreaded Christmas and felt like I had to go along with the program for the sake of the kids. On Christmas Eve, I realized that I am one lucky girl. Mike left me 5 of the most precious children; the last of which was born after he died. There is no present that can top that.

Maggie

deleted_user 12/27/2010

Tru,

What a wonderful gift you were given..enjoyed this post!

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