I am so sorry and sad for your loss.
I am writing this knowing that some people may make the choice of taking offence.
My hope is in God's Word. It says if I repent of my sin and accept The Lord Jesus Christ as my Saviour, then I will have everlasting life.
That means our bodies will die but our spirit lives forever.
I know I will see my husband again. (He accepted his gift of salvation in 2007)
Our blessed hope has brought us through all these trials and I know. God will never leave us not n'or forsake us. (Hebrews13:5)
Peace and hope to you,
Love Sandra.

Faith that tomorrow will be better, and the pain won't be as bad.
Hope that I can survive this grief and feeling of loss.
Love for my family and dear friends.

I just try my best to get through each day, each hour, each minute.
We have to believe that things will get better.

Your pain is very raw right now. Please take care of yourself, and know we are here to support you.

Hugs,
Janie

I'm so sorry for your loss. I gather up some strength every day for my kids(21&13). My hope is that once I navigate through this pain and grief I can emerge a new person who can live fully again. I already know I will be more understanding and pay more attention to the little things in life. I won't let days, weeks, years run by just focusing on the rat race. Life is so precious and short.

I am very sorry for your loss. My hope is the same as Sandra's. Without my faith I do not think that I could do this.

I know it's hard, take it one day at a time, pray alot & know that God takes care of his children.

I also feel God has a plan. Someone told me in a group session they get up every morning and ask God to get her through the day, and at night thank God for getting her through the day. So all a day at a time. I hope someday the joy will return in my life. Right now still a big void.

I know she is not coming back. My solitude comes from knowing I can go where she is.

Life as knew it has stopped; my hope is, someday a joy filled life will find me again. I will try not to hide.

Good question....sometimes I hope that my life will hurry up and be over. Sometimes I hope I can adjust to having just friends, but no one special, to live out the rest of my days with. Sometimes I hope to meet a special man and again have a last chance at happiness. But my real hope is that no one would have to suffer the heartache and loneliness of losing our love ones and of our love ones losing a future with a life ended much too soon. I know my own pain is felt in various degrees by all of us for all of our losses.

There is a poem called footprints in the sand. Christ keeps me going He has carried me since I lost my husband.
Footprints in the Sand


One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord.
Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky.
In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand.
Sometimes there were two sets of footprints,
other times there were one set of footprints.

This bothered me because I noticed
that during the low periods of my life,
when I was suffering from
anguish, sorrow or defeat,
I could see only one set of footprints.

So I said to the Lord,
"You promised me Lord,
that if I followed you,
you would walk with me always.
But I have noticed that during
the most trying periods of my life
there have only been one
set of footprints in the sand.
Why, when I needed you most,
you have not been there for me?"

The Lord replied,
"The times when you have
seen only one set of footprints,
is when I carried you."
Mary Stevenson

Not an easy question. One day when I was at a very low point after his funeral service, I typed out into cyberspace the question, how do I go on? The following poem popped up. I printed it and read it every morning since it was next to my computer. Then I would start my day through tears but I tried. It will soon be 3 years and I still try every morning and every evening. But now I don't cry wild tears every day. Here it is:

When I Must Leave You

When I must leave you
For a little while,
Please do not grieve
And shed wild tears
And hug your sorrow to you
Through the years,
But start out bravely
With a smile.
And for my sake
And in my name,
Live on and do
All the things the same.
Feed not your loneliness
On empty days,
But fill each waking hour
In useful ways.
Reach out your hand in comfort
And in cheer,
And I, in turn, will comfort you
And hold you near.
And never, never
Be afraid to die,
For I am waiting for you
In the sky.
~ Helen Steiner Rice

Thinking of you all, Driftersoul

Beautiful poem, DrifterSoul, and that is how I am trying to live my life. Also, for me, there is great consolation in knowing that my husband is OK, and as much as possible I am trying to see life from his perspective. He is not sad or hurting or longing to return. I just have a sense that I need to let go of him and let him be who he is now and I need to find who I am now.

Last week I started going to one of my granddaughter's classrooms and helping her friends with reading. I love it! I don't have the strength yet to do major service to others but that I can do. I focus on the needs of the day--which are many--and try to accomplish what I can without putting too much stress on myself.

My hope ultimately is to find peace in helping those who need it, and never lose sight of my ultimate goal, which is life in heaven.

I am sorry for your loss. The night before my husband died, we were discussing all of our plans for the future - for the coming days, months, and years. We were so happy and full of hope, looking forward to finally fulfilling so many dreams and plans.

The next morning he died in my arms of a heart attack. All of our dreams and plans died with him.

For a time, the only thing I could say was that I was "hoping for hope." That somehow, I would move forward with my life, that the pain would not always be so great, that I would live my life in a way that would honor my husband and all that he meant to me. I believe that I have done that.

I know it would not have honored Cliff, our life together, and all that he stood for if I Iet his death destroy my life. That is not the legacy I wanted for him, that is not what he wanted for me, and if it had been the other way round it would not have been what I would have wanted for him either.

I have rebuilt my life. I have found love and happiness again. My life is very different from what it was 7 years ago. But it is good. Cliff is still a part of me and always will be, but I gain strength and comfort from my memories now instead of raw pain.

I hope that this helps you understand that it will get easier. Don't give up. And on those days where you feel like giving up, just tell yourself "not today." I did that. And I am so glad that I did not give up - I would have missed so very much. Happiness is as inevitable as sorrow. We forget that when we lose our other half. Don't give up hope.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

My hope is built on my faith that there is a God that does provide goodness in the most desperate of situations. I had to let go of looking for answers to just return to allow Him to direct my path. My faith is strong because I accept He is the potter and I am the clay. Things go wrong when I doubt that and try to control life alone. Sharon

I am so very sorry for your loss. My fianc passed away unexpectedly in September of 2013. You are so new to your grief that the pain is unbearably intense. I know many people will tell you that it gets better. I think that what happens is that grief remains constant but the sharp edges become smoother with time.

I sincerely wish you peace in the coming weeks . . .

I too have my faith that is helping me through this. My thought is that if my husband kept the faith in the face of death then I too can keep the faith as hard as it is some days. God promises that I will see him again and so I place my trust and faith in him. Hebrews 13:5 great verse, take a look.