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What are you grateful for?

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I am grateful that I have peace as I traveled this journey without my Clint. When he first passed away July 27th of last year, so many things were happening in my head, I thought I would go insane. I first discovered Daily Strength and stayed on it on day, sometimes early in the morning when I couldn't sleep. I found myself drawing to God, reading devotionals, the bible and books on grieving, particularly for widows. In January, I went to my first support group at our church and after two sessions, found it was not a fit for me. Someone told me about another church that had a group and I joined in March and am still there. It has been a blessing. The same people (18-20) who was there when I came are still coming every month and we have a love fest each time we meet. We call or write to each other when we are away and are always happy to greet each other. This path has led to me to do inspirational sayings, copy, laminate and pass them out to my group and it has grown to handing sending to those who are sick or have lost a loved one. Yesterday I handed out some to some homeless people. It has helped me heal as I have been blessed, I want to be a blessing to someone else. I loved my husband very much. He was my second husband and a father to my children. We were together 36 years. As a single Mother I prayed for someone to love and be loved by. Not only did God send me love, but also love for my children. He walked my daughters down the aisle, was best man at my son's wedding, was there when their children were born, and on and on and on. I am grateful and the hope I have, is that I will see him again. But for now his spirit is strong within me and my tears are tears of wonderful memories we shared together.
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Please forgive the mistakes. The well of emotions kicked in as I was typing.
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deleted_user
What am I grateful for? I think about it everyday and thank God for all the many blessings I have received. Mostly I am grateful for the 28 years I shared with Wayne. I am still new into my journey (going on eight months) and know it will remain a struggle but I look at how far I've come, nothing huge but every baby step I've taken is a major accomplishment.

I am grateful for so much. I live in the home we built, I have a good job with decent pay that allows me to pay my monthly bills, though our trucks are not new (2003 & 1997) they are paid for and running, the times I have to force myself to do something and the peace I receive when it's done, the list goes on...they are small everyday life blessings that I still share with Wayne but I also do for myself. It is my life now and I must accept that, grow into and enjoy the new blessings I discover along the way.

Thank you for asking. Love and Hugs-Jewley
Community LeaderShrn
Shrn
I became aware of many things after losing my husband. For one, my faith became stronger and more importantly it sustained me through the hard days that hit so often. My questions were not answered in the physical sense, but I lost the need to know and replaced the questions with trust. For those gifts I am grateful. Sharon
gerald222
gerald222
I am grateful that even though I lost hope as I wrestled with grief God did not lose me and as a result I found hope once again. I am also grateful that I learned to focus on the incredible 22 years I was allowed to share with my wife and the oneness we got to experience
as a couple which was a incredible blessing rather than focus on the loss itself. I could fill a page with many more but those are the two that stand out right now.
onward1
onward1
Sometimes I forget to be grateful. This post has made me realize that. I'm grateful for all the things Paul taught me over our 31 years. I can maintain our home & even do some repairs myself. I love looking at those beautiful oak kitchen cabinets he build during our last year together. I'm grateful for my children(my miracles). Still trying to find my way and figure out who I am through this grief process. The roller coaster ride is familiar now, so my bad days are easier(I know how to handle them). Oh, I am so grateful for all of you on DS! You have all helped me cope and have been so supportive. Thanks.
Janine
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Great question!
I'm grateful for my health, a wonderful 40 years with Marv, my home, My children, grandkids , friends and people on this site!
You've been here for me all hours of the day and night and helped me through my darkest hours. I've told you things I've never gold anyone else and feel I can say anything and you will understand,
Where else does that happen?
Love and thank you all!
Maureen
kymberlycourt
kymberlycourt
I am grateful for life. Every day that I wake up to this beautiful world I am happy to have another day to honor Michael and live a life that would make him proud. I am thankful for my children and how they have put my needs before their own. I am thankful for friends who have showed their love and support without fail. I am truly grateful for A God that has strengthened my faith and has walked me beside still waters as promised. I am grateful to see an ever expanding light through a tunnel that was once dark and void of light. I am thankful that I was loved by a man who had virtue and integrity. I am thankful that Michael is at peace and that one day I will see those sea green eyes again .
Coop84
Coop84
Beautiful!! Thank you for sharing!! Sue
mamiepapa18
mamiepapa18
I am thankful and so grateful that I had 54 years with my husband Bob and that we have 7 children ,17 grandchildren and soon to be 8 great grandchildren. Grateful that I have an amazing sister who is there for me everyday.
Most of all I am so grateful that I have a wonderful loving LORD who is there for me everyday and I know Bob is with him and that one day I will again see him many other loved ones.
Grateful yet sad that we all have had to share a loss that has brought us all to DS.so many are truly a blessing to me...
darjar0
darjar0
I am grateful for everything in my life. I wasn't so much before Michael died but now,... this experience has taught me so many things. I'm grateful for 15 yrs of absolute joy. I'm grateful for all the times he went on and on about something because now I remember it and I know what do to about a problem. I'm grateful that God made me a tough ole bird so that I may deal with what life has thrown at me.
I'm grateful for my dogs, my son, my parents, that my house is paid for, that even tho I only have a few real life friends they are wonderful.
I'm even grateful for my time alone to think & adjust .
And I'd be REALLY grateful if God saw fit to send a decent job offer my way ;)
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I am thankful for God and for the FAITH I have found in Him since Jeff's death. I had not felt that before. But after Jeff died, it just clicked. I am also thankful for the 3 short years God gave me with Jeff. I don't know if I will ever experience that type of complete love with anyone else, but I consider myself lucky to have experienced it with Jeff. I am hopeful that God will send me someone else that I could care about. I know that I do not want to grow old alone.
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