I'm new in this journey no one wants to take but I wear my wife's ring on my right hand baby finger and that's where it will stay. She was the person I spent the majority of my life with, had children with, and had life's highs and lows with. Regardless of where my path takes me that will never change and no one can take her place. It just feels natural there and I don't see why time would change that.

This is a very personal decision, and there is no right or wrong. You must do what feels right to you. It doesn't matter what other people think. As for me, I still wear my rings after 16 months and I have no plans to take them off. In my heart I am still a married woman. Susan

I agree with everyone else. This is a decision that can only be made by you.

I wear mine and have his on a chain I wear around my neck beneath my shirt and don't see changing that.

(((hugs)))
Carla

This is sucha personal and emotional charges issue. You have to make the decision that's right for you and you alone.

What's right for one, may not be right for someone else. There are no right or wrong answers. Just do what your heart tells you.

We didn't get divorced - he died! So I considered myself married to Bill. He was buried with his ring on his finger (he never took it off except for surgeries) and so it is still there. I wear my wedding rings proudly.
Months after Bill died, I I went to a "jewelry party" (out of obligation) and noticed some rings in the catalog. One ring was named "eternity". It was pretty and modest. I bought the ring to fit on my right index finger. I like to wear it to remind myself that even though he is gone........my relationship with Bill is eternal. So I guess the ring is a widow ring for me. I like to wear it every day on my right hand. My wedding rings on the left hand.

For me, it was too painful to wear the rings on my left hand. Everytime I looked at them, I would cry uncontrollably. Knew I couldn't go on like that, so one day I went into the jewelry store that I had a gift made for him years ago. Guess I just wanted to remember a happy time, as I was so excited to have something "made" for him. The sales lady remembered me, and asked about my husband. I broke down, and told her my story. Also told her that I wasn't sure what to do with our rings as I didn't want to take them "off' but couldn't wear them on the left hand.

What I did was to fuse them all together, and to also make an emblem on each side of the ring for special moments that he and I only would know. When I got it back, I cried not out of grief this time, but because it isa beautiful tribute to him, I can wear it on my right hand, remember him, and not cry when I look at it. I remember him, us, and our life togther. what we meant to each other and still do. One of the emblems is an eagle. He loved them, and I picture him soaring with them every time I look at the ring now. It reminds me he is free of all the pain he had here.

Whatever you do, wear them, don't wear them, put them away, wear them round your neck, nothing you do is wrong, if it gives you some peace. I know in my heart that that is what our loves want for us in the end. Some peace.

hugs to you, Diane