You do what you have to do for YOU..
myself I am still married and always be married to Ken.. He was the only at the time boy I ever dated and my one and only marriage my soulmate.. I'm not to the anger stage and don't think I will be.. He couldn't help he got ill and the doctors didn't give him the proper care and that he should still be here.. I will never take off my wedding ring it has been on my finger for 38 years this coming April 28th and as the inside of my ring says April 28th /73 through eternity it will be on till my ashes will be mixed with his..
now that I have dibble on.. you do what you need to.. try taking it off and seeing how you feel about not wearing it.. You might change your mind and put it back on.. or put it on a change around your neck.. just a suggestion..
take care..

I agree do what you want and need to do. Hey you can always put it back on if you want to.

We all have to do what gives us the most comfort. We're all different and there is no right or wrong - we all have our own reasons. I'll use what I did about my husband's clothes as another example. He was ill for 8 months with cancer and couldn't wear most of those clothes. After he passed away, it made me very upset and angry to see the clothes as he hadn't been able to wear them for a long time. They were a constant reminder of how unfair it was for my perfectly healthy husband to get cancer and die at 57. So a few weeks after he passed, my son and I went through his clothes. He kept some as did I, and donated the rest to our church. Some others would not have done this so early on but our situations are all different. There are other things, such as his scooter and van, that I was just able to donate or sell after over 3 yrs. Just do what's best for you. Take care, Sandra

My wedding ring comes with a funny story. I broke my fingers in Aug. and the dr. had to cut my ring off. My husband decided that for Christmas he would buy me a new ring, it is beautiful.Little did I know that he bought it on a payment plan with no interest for 18 months. He passed away 2 months in to the payments. Now I am paying for my own ring. I know he is looking down on me and saying SORRY. I will wear it until I feel I no longer want to. Do what you feel.

I wear my ring and his around my neck on a chain, It makes me happy and thats fine with me.
I didn't wait all my life (got married at 45) Just to give up my wedding ring 5 years later. we were married 5 years, together 18 years.
I love loving him...

I put all three of our rings, his ring..my ring..and my engagement ring, on a chain around my neck. I was moving something out of the basement and I didn't realize the chain broke. I found both of our wedding rings but still haven't found my engagement ring. So now his ring is in my jewelry box and mine is on my finger. As soon as I figure out what I am doing both rings will be together someday. I guess having mine on my finger makes me feel he is always with me.

Wedding rings are personal and there is no right or wrong answer. I researched, and some people never take them off, some move to the opposite hand, others put them away in a special place to pass on to children of grandchildren. One widow I know told me don't take them off until you are ready to date, because the first time you don't wear them, men will notice. I don't know if I will ever take mine off. I start to cry everytime I think of myself as not married anymore. I am still married, that is one of the harder things about being a widow/widower. We did not choose this, it was thrust on us, and I don't know of anyone who was ready to not be married anymore.

Along the same line, but a little different; how do you complete forms that ask if you are Miss, Ms or Mrs? and what about marital status? I still put married on those that show married or single....does it matter? I still feel married, not single. Not a big dilemma, but I am wondering??

fran

I think that wearing or not wearing out wedding rings is a personal decision. Since I don't wear any rings around the house, I put on my wedding ring when I go out. I wear my husbands on a chain around my neck along with a gold heart that he gave me that has a lock of his hair and my Star of David, all on the same chain.
Since I use my maiden name and have all during our marriage, I guess I am a Ms., but I am still a married woman in my eyes, so the rings stay. Judith

It depends on how people look at it. You mention that people will know how much it hurts if you take your ring off - but you can't really know what others will think because everyone may think differently. Some people may actually think the opposite of what you're suggesting. Some people may think - ok you've taken off the ring and therefore you have gotten on with your life and accepted that you are no longer married and therefore not hurting as much.

So - don't decide anything based on what you think others may think - because you can never know. Instead decide based on what you want to do. I still wear my rings - after more than a year.

Mine was easy, my ring the way it was structured irritated my finger as it collected stuff under it all the time I seldom wore it unless I went out, so was used to most of the time not wearing it. I am going to make a mothers ring out of it I think.

I'm at seven months. At this point in my life I have no intentions of taking it off. I'm married and always will be even tho he is not physically with me. In fact I just had my ring cleaned and polished so it would look like it did when he out it on my finger 20 years ago. @fran.. I put married on any forms. If they don't like it ..oh well...

Do what feel best for you. Some people wear their rings until they die. Some wear them around their necks. I've considered putting mine on a charm bracelt, but decided against it. I'd rather keep it, so that I can put it on when I want to get rid of uninvited men.

I wear my husbands on a chain. It hurt too much to see mine and know that i am all alone now so I took them off and put them in a safe place. My daughter wants them and when the time is right she will wear them as her own wedding rings.

i too wear my honeys wedding ring on my finger..his ring,my ring and then my engagement ring...for now, that makes me content...and like we are still together...what ever is best for you