Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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Broken-and-lost 10/07/2017

I've honestly rather give up. I can't do this on my own. Losing my husband along with 7 other family members at once is too much. All I have is my son who six that screams at me telling me he wants a new mommy. I wished I was in the accident with my husband, his parents, his brother, and his grandpa. And that for me and my son to have died with them. It's too hard. I've lost the people I talk to everyday. The way Ive been feeling the last few days I just want to die. I'm losing all hope. All the friends I had are no where to be found. I don't have any family left. I've never felt so alone. Not like anyone would notice me and my son is gone.

avmom 10/07/2017

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how it feels to feel alone. You do have your son and you have to keep on going for him as well as yourself. He is feeling your pain as well as his own. Don't think just because he is only six he doesn't feel remorse and grief. I can only recommend you try to get some therapy for him as well as you. You have gone through such a big loss and you need to be able to talk to someone for help. If you don't have insurance or can't afford it, call around to some social service offices they might be able to help. Don't take what he says or yells at you to heart, he is in pain. You are also very raw and need time to process it all. Keep coming back and posting.

barleymo 10/07/2017

Please hang in there, the pain will pass but it will take a very long time. Your son needs you, my prayers are with you. x

Msbklyn 10/07/2017

I am so very sorry for your tragic losses. I sincerely hope that you have been able to find help for you and your son. You absolutely need to have support and that would be best offered by someone who has experience in this area. Please know that people care, they just may not know what to say or do. Try to reach out and ask for small things, such as a day spent with you and your son. With a lot of time and support I pray you may be able to find peace. Hold on and lean on others right now. God Bless

SkyWolf 10/08/2017

I am so very sorry for your terrible loss. There are no words I can offer to ease your pain and suffering. All I can say is that you survived for a reason, as did your son, and you can and will both survive this horrific ordeal. Please get help and counseling for you and your son. I'm sorry that you are not surrounded by other close friends right now. But if you seek help you will find it. I don't care if you are religious or spiritual or not, find a welcoming and open-minded congregation and seek some spiritual support. Find a therapist for your son, and for yourself. Consider some sort of art therapy or creative expression or outlet for your grief. Write to your husband, and help your son to do the same. You need to open up the channels of communication with those you lost. You can and you will if you try. That will help you and comfort you over time. Ask for help where ever you can. Take it one day, one hour at a time. I wish I was there to hug you and your little boy. Try to remember that your husband and family would not want you to give up. They would want you to take care of your son and for both of you to remember them, honor their memory, move on and thrive. But it will take time. You and your son need to heal. Your loss is way beyond what anyone should have to cope with. But you will get through this. You will.

vwidow 10/08/2017

I see the religion police were active again and deleted my reply because it contained some scriptures? Too bad for you all. I thought it was comforting.

vwidow 10/08/2017

I suppose if I said go to a medium/necromancer (which is religious) my reply would be untouched...

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