I like men too :)I may have been upset if one came on too strong too soon. But some days I would welcome male company. They bring a whole new view into ones life and I really miss that. I miss the conversation and company!

Darn, Joe...I leave the country and miss out on a good topic. I hope I am not one of the man bashers. I like men...and married one of the finest. I perfer mine tall and in uniform. The only time I will bash a man on here is if I get messaged from some creep I did not invite.

I do question one line:"Just because some women have chosen to close their minds and their hearts to anything romantic or sexual..." This is a personal choice. I had a really decent marriage to someone that I thought the world of. I do not wish to have that experience again. My call. I have guys that are friends, buddies....I have a full plate that God has handed me and I feel life can be rewarding. I do not need a man to make me feel that life is worthwhile.

For family reasons, I am back in Ireland for a bit and I am back at the convent I one time thought I might become part of. It is a place where I find comfort and peace. How good it seems to be part of morning devotions again and part of the fellowship of the sisters. I will be here untill I can bring my 7 year old sister to the states. peace and blessings to you, Joe. Kaaren

Interesting subject. What would it be like if a widow felt ''frisky'' and approached a man? Double standard I am sure - what would they think about her? I started dating just before the sexual revolution. I feel like I missed out to be honest, I was always the ''good girl'', but now my feelings in that ''department '' are still there. What do I do with that??? I'm sure I will get responses about sex vs. love - and morels - ok, I'm an animal I guess. Now that things are ''hanging'' I will never know those experiences!!! I was faithful to one person for 39 years plus - but now - well I don't know - life is so stinkin' short. I try very hard not to label people - men especially. because in certain ways, I see some of my men friends as even more sensitive then my women friends. I admire you Joe for saying what you feel here. My brain keeps churning with thoughts about just wanting the physical end of things, and to not get my heart involved this time. Feelings aren't right or wrong - they just are. I wouldn't get insulted if someone hit on me - I'm an adult now, I can just say ''no thanks'' and move on without bashing the whole male species - actually I had a female hit on me, and I was so stupid that I didn't realize it !!! We are all hurting here, so let's try not to hurt anyone - we all walk in the same shoes (heels or not!!!!).

Really like your response Standingalone. And, I can appreciate your discussion Joe.

I wish there was a bubble "this" widow could walk in sometimes so no one would ever say the wrong thing to me, would never do the wrong thing to me, and never act the wrong way towards me. Apparently because I am a widow I am entitled to a higher level of behavior from people??? When I was at the beginning of my journey I unknowingly believed this but now 2 years out I really understand how much the world, human behavior, hasn't changed BUT, I have. And as suckish as this is gonna sound we are now the leaders in this particular arena of life. We cannot expect those that have not traveled this path to understand our sensitivities. We are the educators, like it or not.