Hate to say it . . . but it's simply another Holiday that is overrated and over commercialized. Every day is a chance to "love" and reflect on said love. I know you are missing your beloved this year . . on Saint Valentines Day, I do get it. Perhaps you might want to do some research on the actual meaning of the holiday? I think you will find it intriguing . . .

As for staying busy . . . another option. Why not get in your truck and drive, as you mentioned . . take a day trip somewhere that feels special to you. Or simply drive and leave the woes on the pavement behind you while listening to your fave tunes. ?? Be inventive as you are in the midst of being forced to "re-invent" self as a singular.

Tough journey we are on . . . all of us. Sorry for a lil tough love attitude . . . I think I'm getting tired of all of the sugar coating, so let's cut to the chase of the matter. Grief sucks, loss sucks . . we can't change the reality that has been dropped in our respective laps. We either choose to move on as we can and are able to (baby steps, one moment, one day at a time) . . . or we choose to live a life of quiet desperation indefinitely.

With that said, I am truly sorry for your recent loss. Again, it's not an easy journey . . many have travailed the path before us and have survived. This is our promise and reason to have faith in the process. We can and will survive this grief and grow through the process beyond imagination.

My deepest condolences and best wishes to you on this shared journey. xo, Dayna

dont be sorry for your comments i think i just may go for a drive maybe to oregon....and yes its a tough journey i feel like im kinda on a path and following it along...but i think you had a good idea
thank you!!

I saw a post on her somewhere with a great suggestion! It was to show her abundant love by serving others. Donate your time and energy to some place that needs it like a homeless shelter or food bank or something like that. It just redirects that love and keeps you busy.

2 years ago. my husband died. I buried him on Valentines Day. Today, I went to the cemetery, put a garden flower spike and tied a "I love you" balloon to it. When I left, I could see it from the road, shining and sparkling. Seemed like he was waving to me. Like he was happy I did it...

I've decided to ignore it altogether and just treat it as a normal Saturday. We'll see how that goes.

I am going to have dinner with two of my friends who are also widows. One for 21 years and the other is 2 years in June. I think the idea to get in the truck and go is a good idea. So sorry for your loss. This a tough journey!! Hugs. Sur

PaPa, it's just too difficult to think about! I know it's coming and wherever we'll go we'll see it. In the malls, on the corners, in the market.....it's everywhere! I won't knock it or make fun of those of us who fall for it because when I had a love, I loved when he would buy me a card [I hate flowers that need to go in a vase], they're dead, why are people killing all the beautiful flower?] It NEVER made sense to me and Morey knew it.

He would buy me something that I could KEEP......like a figurine of a bunny [I love bunnies], they're so easy to find because of Easter. And, what woman doesn't love jewelry?

I love drives near the coast. I live near the pacific coast and the Oregon coast is one of the most glorious! Go to Depot Bay, Oregon and have a bowl of clam chowder........Better yet, come and get me I'll go with you! I'm a great traveler and so is Horton!

We're all in this together......it makes me feel better to realize and know that there are many, many people like you and me who don't have anyone special in their lives........

May I take this time to wish you and ALL my DS friends an EASY VALENTINE'S DAY

Roz

I am keeping my two grandsons this weekend. Will put all my love and energy in to having fun with them.! Hugs to you! Julie

Hi Papa...
I'm having a group of widows and widowers over for a Chinese take out and games night. I just didn't want to be home alone, crying into my wine. Also didn't want to be out and about, seeing all the couples.
Funny, but my LH never made a fuss of me at Valentines - didn't believe in the commercialism. I just wish I had him back to give him a hug and kiss on the day...

A girlfriend called me up and said she would not take no for an answer. So we will go out to dinner on Valentine's Day. A caring friend reaching out. My husband most times would surprise me with card, flowers and dinner out. oh how I miss my sweetheart.

First I have to say, Dayna I loved your reply. My husband stopped celebrating Valentine's day a few years back because it had become so commercial. He always said there was no gift that could ever show how much he loved me so for me tomorrow is not that daunting. I'm going to spend it with my 3yo grandson. We will both indulge in silly behavior and probably some ice cream! The drive along the coast sounds beautiful. Especially for someone in the desert of AZ I saw a post on Pinterest yesterday that may help a little. It said

" I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with you. And then I realized... you spent the rest of your life with me. I smile because I know you loved me till the day you went away and will keep loving me till the day we're together again. "

A little sad but uplifting in a way too. Be good to yourself, Liz.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's incredibly hard.

As for me --we never really celebrated it. I always saw it as a commercial holiday and nothing more. I was the one to convince my husband to switch to my side of things. Therefore, he would pick a regular day and send me flowers and make it romantic. I appreciated it so much becaus I knew it wasn't driven by some stores expectations. I feel the same for all holidays, often buying presents on days that have no meaning.

Now, that my husband, mother, and play-sister are all gone, I'm grateful for the pain I'm not suffering around the holidays.

just had dinner with a friend who is also a widow. uplifting night to know I am not alone. as my therapist says it is 24 hours. planning on spending another blizzard in Boston with my grandson! Nothing gives more peace!

Decided to go to florist and buy Dee her favorite flowers-carnations-a Happy Valentine's Day sign and a stuffed bear with a little vase...florist asked what I was going to do with the vase...I told him it's complicated...guess he didn't remember me from last year when I bought flowers for her wake...couldn't bring myself to tell her she died...anyways my plan is to place these items on her grave tomorrow, either before or after work...at least I don't have to be alone in the house tomorrow...although I agree that Valentine's Day is over-commercialized, it was still great for 26 Valentine's Day to make her feel special....and not only that day, but throughout the year...I was truly blessed...prayers for everyone to have a bearable day...Alex

Our boss gave each lady, who works for him, a red rose and some brownies to share. That was really nice.

My husband and I never really paid attention to Valentines day. This year, his orchids that I have neglected and left outside is now blooming beautifully, so I think it is blooming for me from him, double nice, as if he is sending me a message.

I will make the best of this day babysitting my nearly 2 year old grandson. He makes me smile. He is my new Valentine.