Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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0720lele 04/16/2018

I have lost so many loved ones in the last four and a half years. I lost my husband then my father in law two months later, then my grandmother, my best friend, my father. it took me much courage and resiliency to open up my heart to someone again. I finally was able to and there was joy and laughter in my home again. Then Jan. 11, 2018 I lost my boyfriend who was a good friend to me and helped me when no one else would. they all have good intentions when someone dies, they will say call me I will help you call me for anything. but then they are not there. My boyfriend (before he was my boyfriend, just a friend) was there after the death of my husband, then my father in law and then my father. three and a half years later, I allowed myself to love again. I was happy again, I found my smile and my child did as well. although we were in a relationship it took me a really long time to say I love you back. I was finally able to say I love you in November, but he died unexpectadly and unbelieveably in January. everyone was shocked and in disbelief; there are times I am still in shock and disbelief. My heart is truly broken again, and the pain is so intense. I miss both of the amazing men I loved every moment. I am hear again trying to pick up the broken pieces and be stong for my child. Today is a bad down of feeling such great emotions and lonliness and deep saddness. I really could use so good luck my way. I am so tired of being strong my work is very difficult as well.

Msbklyn 04/16/2018

My heart goes out to you. It does take so much courage to open your heart to love after so much loss. There aren't words to say that are sufficient to describe how very sorry I am for all of your pain. The only thing any of us can do is offer comfort and frienship as we walk our journeys together. One day at a time. As you have experienced, I'm sure time does help ease the sharp pain. But there is no escape. Come here and let others offer you support as you find your way again.

regwin 04/16/2018

I too am very sorry for all your loss and pain. There are many wonderful people here who care how you feel. Yes, keep coming and pour your heart out. As you know it will take some time to heal but you will. Never lose hope. We do get the bad and then the good. Thankfully, you have the love of your child right now to help you through this. Hugs, Dolores

0720lele 04/16/2018

Thank you for your kind words. I have good days and bad days. Lately it has been the low low days. I miss my boyfriend, and then missing him reminds me that I miss my husband. I have lost most of my family in the last four years and the people who have helped me by loving me and caring for me and my child and whom I spoke to and listened have passed on. It is so sad that it is almost unbelieveable. I know I am strong and resilient, and people tell me that a lot, but it is still difficult.

lovesloons 04/16/2018

You have had to endure many losses and I hope you find the peace you need, God will watch over you as well as those you have lost. They are always with us.

cupolatte 04/16/2018

Life can be really tough. I am so sorry that you are going through all of this one on top of the other. I know how multiple losses feel. I will ask God to give you strength and comfort you.

shewearsblack17 04/17/2018

Since 2010 I have lost two husbands and a brother (and a mother-in-law, if that counts. She didn't like me but had never met me either). It kind of knocks the wind out of you. Not only are your dreams shattered, but it seems that life loses its purpose. My main accomplishments of the day were buying new place mats for my kitchen table and going to the post office.. At least there was some weird entertainment inside the post office. Yeah, too much loss is not good. Any loss is not good. Guess I will go to bed and listen to the rain.

MrsMorris 04/17/2018

I'm sorry for your losses. You are very strong. I too know multiple losses are not easy. While I haven't lost as much as you I did lose the love of my life in 2016 after 10 years together. He was only 26. Not even two months later my grandma passed. Then the following January, while it isn't the same as losing a person, my 9 month old kitten was hit by a car and passed. I don't know if I can handled another tragedy any time soon. Hang in there.

simondo 04/17/2018

Life is full of ups and downs and knowing that you are going through such path, i know how it feels because i have been in such position in the past. You need someone to talk to, go out for a walk and keep yourself busy, above all, trust in God. I am here if you need someone to talk to.

0720lele 04/18/2018

thank you for your kind words it does help to know that others have gone through similar situations and have an understanding of the kind of pain one feels when they loose a loved one.

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