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Trying to Go On..

lostmyheart
lostmyheart

I've been trying to go on but its so so hard and while I have family that is supportive, it just isn't helping that much.  Its been 3 months since R passed away and its not getting any better.  I've cried every day this week.  My R and and were into RVing and he wanted me to continue to do so.  I went to South Carolina with my daughter and grandchildren and was able to learn all that I needed to set it up.  Luckily I'm very good at driving it.  Planning on going back to NH (where we spent most of our married life) for July with the RV but I don't think RVing alone will be any fun.  We will see.


I'm also planning on doing what we had planned to do this winter; find a place to winter with the RV.  I'm going to try Texas, Arizona and Florida...but I'm not sure how it's going to be all alone.  Having no one to share experiences with is the major problem but I promised R that I would do this.


Thanks for listening...

Savannah17
Savannah17
Three months is not a long time. It's been almost 9 months since my husband died, and it is still very difficult. Do what feels right for you, but also be kind to yourself and follow your instincts. The travel may do you good, but if you don't feel up to it, then maybe do it when you feel stronger.
scottito
scottito
I think I was about 3 months in when I stumbled in here. I knew I needed to do something because I was sinking fast. At 6 months I couldn't comprehend how I could still be in so much change. At a year I willed myself into believing I was better not realizing I was not. Only the wailing had subsided. Everything is in stages, baby steps if you will. You are a very brave woman, and we all have to do what our hearts tell us to do. Go for it, and have fun. The first of anything alone in this grief world is always the hardest. I gained so much pleasure from long drives all alone. Some make successful solo journeys early on in their grief. Most of us can barely get out of the house. Do keep a loose schedule, so you don't have to feel stressed if your schedule doesn't go exactly as planned. Take time to stop and smell the roses, taking in the beauty of the land you are crossing. Happy trails! ~~~ Scottie
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