Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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Rick51 12/27/2017

Found this;

THOUGHT OF HIM ~ Chillin' at the mall with the boys. Thought of him. Blessing and eating our food. Thought of him. Went to the movies and had an empty seat beside me. Thought of him. Sharing popcorn, candy, and a soda with my son. Thought of him. Put new sheets on the bed. Thought of him. Sleeping close to his side of the bed. Thought of him. His son wears his cologne now. Thought of him. Flashbacks to us laughing. Thought of him. Wishing he was here to cook. Thought of him. Watching the cooking shows he loved. Thought of him. Seeing his Webber grill on the back porch. Thought of him. Watching King of Queens. Thought of him. Seeing my boys. Thought of him. Someone asked about his dad. Thought of him. His friends check up on us. Thought of him. His friend had a birthday yesterday. Thought of him. Every time I see a bass symbol. Thought of him. Every time I see something funny on Facebook. Thought of him. Polishing my nails and smelling the fumes. He hated that smell. Thought of him. Had a great day with my boys. Thought of him. Glad they make me laugh. Thought of him. When I start to worry unnecessarily, they calm me down with "Chill Mommm!" Thought of him. He would be proud of them. Thought of him. Getting sleepy and gonna call it a night. Hope I dream of him.

Mona Smith Hairston 2014 ©

nancy6464 12/27/2017

Wow, that paints the feeling so well~

AfterMom 12/27/2017

cliffskat 12/29/2017

There was a widower here when I first arrived on DS who said it was like having somebody standing behind you whispering in your ear 'she's gone' over and over all day. It's hard after years and years to not think of them so much. There will always be reminders, some big and some small. I can tell you that eventually the reminders won't hurt so much or so often, and they can even make you smile and occasionally laugh out loud.

Hang in there, you CAN do this.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

pahatfi 12/30/2017

like you I thought about him daily big stuff and little stuff to share with...no one. this way my first Christmas new year without him we had 42 years together...I always told him I wanted 50 I miss him so much

Shrn 01/03/2018

It's my first holiday without my love too. Christmas Eve spent with family was good, until I returned alone. Christmas day was hard from beginning to end. A day at a time is all we can do.

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