Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I had a conversation with someone that is supposed to be my friend. I was telling her how I joined different groups on the internet just so I can feel connected to people who share the same journey as I do. Somehow the subject turned to people who remarry or date after losing their spouses. She goes on to tell me that she believes that love can come again to people in their 20's and 30's but not people our age (56). Mind you I at no time was expressing the desire to meet anyone. It is the idea that what she said sounded like " You are too old and too broken down with your issues to ever be loved again" I am not reading between the lines with this lady either. She is very passive aggressive. It just made me feel so awful. I know that I will never be the same again in my lifetime. That is hard enough to deal with but to think that I would never be loveable to anyone is so final and depressing.
And because of that amazing love, I am open to new relationships. I figure I love my 2 sons equally, so why can't I love another man? Is my husband still my soul mate? Yes. Am I going to stop living and loving? No.