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My youngest son who lives 200 miles away came to visit for the weekend. He, another of my sons, and I were eating lunch at the kitchen table. They were joking around and I realized I was actually laughing, something I haven't done in a long time. It felt good.
I have been working on, getting a random smile out here and there. Oddly enough it does feel good for a change.
Love and Hugs,
Martha
I understand why people are slow to laugh again. It is kind of like after 9/11/2001 in the US - comedians did not know what to do. It was difficult to joke about anything for a while. But that changed...
When you look at what is funny - it's a change in perspective. Something is so sad that it's funny when you are able to look at it in a certain way. The thing is still sad, but it's the way that you look at it that makes it funny.
So if you can see the change in perspective, then you are coming around to retrieving yourself :)
I thought of posting a few jokes here to show what I mean, but not everyone's humor is the same. But if you think about something that is funny to you, it's usually something bad that gets looked at differently :).
{ Just look at some of those Three Stooges movies - that stuff is all painful, but we will split our sides laughing at them. }
Again, laughter is good for the soul, so I hope we all have some laughter each day :)
Bob