I think the first few weeks do go fast because you are dealing with so many details and so much unexpected stuff to do. Also, I think for me I was "sleepwalking" through several weeks so really didn't experience them at all, just went through the motions.

What I'm trying to do (at three months) is slow down a little, breathe more deeply on purpose, and be really kind to myself. There's a lot of headaches, work, struggle, and sadness ahead, I know, but each day that I'm here on earth I try to have some pleasure and some laughter. We deserve it, and I know for sure that my husband would have wanted it no other way.

Its been 2 years for me. Sometimes it feels like yesterday, sometimes it feels like a lifetime ago. I was just asking my son, doesn't the weeks just go by so fast lately? He agreed. My Dad once told me, the older you get, the faster time flies. It is true.

Simply - I know what you mean - today is 8 months since I lost the love of my life. Sometimes I just can't believe that much time has passed - but other times it still feels like yesterday. I know what you mean too about so much to do. You go from 2 people taking care of everything and then it's just you! It's exhausting. Take it easy on yourself - like you say - there's time to get it all done.
My best to you take care of yourself.

At first, I guess because I was in denial, time seemed to stand still. As the weeks and months passed, though, it seemed as if time was flying by. My third angel-versary is coming up on Valentine's Day and it seems impossible that that much time has passed. I must say, I much prefer the place where I am NOW as opposed to that horrible place i was THEN.

Of course, you're tired - doing yourself what both of you shared when he was living. And, grief, itself, is exhausting. Please be kind to yourself and rest. During these early days of grief, if you don't take care of yourself you can become ill. Leave as much of the "stuff" as you possibly can - for another time. Right now, it's all about YOU.

Hugs,

Terry