I am so sorry for your loss. All we can do is keep putting one foot ahead of the other. One day the grief will subside. You learn to live with it. Death is not the end. Your wife is still with you in spirit. Watch for signs. Your wife would want you to go on and live your best life. (((Gentle Hugs)))

I, too, am so sorry that you have lost your wife. It's been years for me, but I still miss my husband every single day. For you, you are just coming out of the fog of losing her at one year. It takes time, lots and lots of time, to learn to live a new life, one that you did not choose. Just take it one day at a time. Sending hugs to you, Roxanne

I'm sorry for your loss. Grief is the price we pay for loving someone. It's hard, I know because I've been there, and some days are more difficult than others. Grieving takes a long time and you are still early in the process so try to take life one day at a time or one minute at a time if that's all you can handle. You may not believe me but I promise that you'll eventually get to the other side of this. And that doesn't mean she'll be forgotten or that you won't hurt from time to time. It just means that the day will come when you're able to think of your wife and smile without the tears. In the meantime, sending you hugs. Donna

I am so sorry for your loss. I have lived and still living the pain of the loss of my husband in 2012. It gets easier, but for me it has never really went away. But how I feel about it, I was blessed to have a more than fantastic husband for 34 years, We loved each other more than words could say. He would always tell me, I'll Love you more tomorrow, before we went to sleep. I know that saying is on a lot of different things now, but he said it long before that. From what you have said it sounds like you had that kind of marriage also. As much pain as we go through from their loss, I am still very thankful I had the kind of marriage and love I had for 34 years, because not everyone gets the chance to ever know that kind of love. So we are blessed. to have known it and still feel it. I know you are hurting, but through the pain count the blessing. When I went to our doctors after he passed for a long tie my doctor and I would both cried, because she loved him also and she told me, it was nice to see someone who really loved their mate and cared, because she sees a lot that couldn't of cared less, their mate passed. Take care and it will get easier. Can't promise the pain will ever go away completely, (I don't want mine to) but you will get better.

One year is early days still.
Allow yourself time, it will get better, I am sure your wife would want you to have a future, life is for living.

Two years after loosing my husband of 42 years, I met a fellow, we are starting our 4th year together, fabulous loving relationship.
My 2 sons both tell me Dad would be so pleased to know how happy you are and that you have R in your life.
I never in my wildest dreams thought I would meet anyone who loved me as much as my late husband did........ However I have.

Be kind to yourself
You will see brightness once again.....

I am sorry you are in the club no one wants to be in. It's so early...it seems impossible that happiness can be attainable again. But Sunlove's story is a testament to the possibility of it. Baby steps. Perhaps time will gradually let happiness return. And remember, the holidays are a very difficult time of year, so practice some self care. You are not alone.

I am so sorry for your loss. It’s hard.
I wish there were words that could truly help. The greater the love lost the greater the pain. I felt the same as you when my late wife passed in 2016. Try and build a healthy routine, eat well, exercise, do chores, take walks, reach out to family and other widows/widowers and talk with a grief counselor. Let yourself cry… personally I tried to limit my crying to 15 minute spurts. Otherwise for me it was too much to bare. Journal, talk to her. We lose our partner in the flesh but our relationship continues in our heart. Yes not fair and very hard. I know. Know she would want the very best for you. I realize words are little consolation.
Where ever you find healthy support lean towards it.
One day at a time. Sometimes one hour at a time… sometimes one minute at a time. If you find a light shining towards you; move towards it and have a look.
Compassion starts with self compassion. Just know you are not alone. Bun Bun’s words are very true.

I know some people would say,they know how hard it is for you. I .like the comments below actually do. My wife has been gone 14 months. I struggle each day as you do. If only I could hold her hand one more time. One more kiss good night. As Roxanne stated,it took me quite some time to come out of the fog of realizing I had to go on alone. I have no answers,just want you to know you are not alone.May we all find some peace in our lives.