Widows & Widowers Support Group
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Now that the one year date is gone. It was rough coming up to that date - than it was here. Without sounding off to anyone - no internet - daughter in her own issues....etc. I handled the days coming up to it crying alot for a few days. Than became determined I wanted that day he left to be a hello we are thinking of you time.
We celebrated peacefully - it felt good - I was determined to make it a happy day to memorize him. It was. I was amazed it was here it seemed it took forever than it seemed it was here so soon - reflecting on that took my mind off crying just sad.
I do feel different. I am not sure why. I feel a little more peaceful, at least at this moment. I am anxious to move - scared alittle - worried my place won't sell - but certain its the right thing although I still know I will miss my mts. - the baby elk came by in a big herd yesterday morning and all that. BUT ...still I know I can not stay
emotionally physically and financially.
I took off all rings - do not wear one - at all. For me it makes me sadder to wear one. I am going to try and find a nothing ring just for me in time.
I guess I thought it would be a little sadder, but I am glad for now its not.
I just wanted to sound off and reflect my feelings - which I feel are somewhat unusual maybe.
We celebrated peacefully - it felt good - I was determined to make it a happy day to memorize him. It was. I was amazed it was here it seemed it took forever than it seemed it was here so soon - reflecting on that took my mind off crying just sad.
I do feel different. I am not sure why. I feel a little more peaceful, at least at this moment. I am anxious to move - scared alittle - worried my place won't sell - but certain its the right thing although I still know I will miss my mts. - the baby elk came by in a big herd yesterday morning and all that. BUT ...still I know I can not stay
emotionally physically and financially.
I took off all rings - do not wear one - at all. For me it makes me sadder to wear one. I am going to try and find a nothing ring just for me in time.
I guess I thought it would be a little sadder, but I am glad for now its not.
I just wanted to sound off and reflect my feelings - which I feel are somewhat unusual maybe.
Maggie
I don't know what year two holds for me. A lot of changes, my son will graduate from HS, I will put my home up for sale, who knows? The one thing I know is that if I could survive this first year of utter hell I can continue on - growing and getting stronger. Lonely? Yes. Absolutely - but I have survived and that is something to hold onto to. Blessings to us all as we continue on.
Linda
I wear my rings on my right hand. I had them melted together, and had emblems put on either side of something special to G and me. It makes me feel better. I can wear them and remember the sweetness. they still look like wediing rings, just on the other hand. It was too much for me to continue wearing them on my left hand. Made things much worse for me. I work out of the house where we lived, and that's tough in itself, so anything that makes it easier is good.
I think that anything you do that gives YOU peace is RIGHT for YOU.
Hopes for many more peaceful days to come, and good luck on the house sale!!!!
Diane