That happened to me too. No oldies or CD's. Now 2 1/2 years later I can listen to them again. If these songs bother me I just switch back to talk radio. I thought I was the only one......Hugs

No you are not the only one. Strange isn't it this journey that we are on.

You are definatly not the only one. I am just a year without my husband, and am just now able to listen to some music. I also like the one's ffrom the 60's. Some music I still have a hard time with. I still can't watch tv much. once in awhile I will catch one of my grandsons movies with them. Hell I havn't read a news paper in a year. My husband bought the USA today every day of our life together. I used to cry when I would walk past a news paper rack. the only news I catch is on the internet. hugs to you: Donna

This is definitely one of the hardest things for me. When I'm driving in my car and turn on my iPod, I have to skip over song after song until I get to something that doesn't remind me of my life when he was a part of it. I can only seem to listen to "new" music now (songs I do not associate with him). I HATE this and wonder if and when I'll ever be able to listen to those songs again. You are NOT alone, believe me!! Hugs, Sharry

I'm sitting here reading your posts and crying. I still remember how beautiful my wife looked on the night of our senior prom in 1968. Once in a while I do play our music and I can hear her singing and i cry. But I feel her near me and remember her then and not how she passed away.

You are not alone. My entire life was about music. Just recently in the last few months I started really listening again. I STILL can't listen to the Beatles. Many of them were played at out wedding, and in particular "In my life'. We also played it at his visitation.

I so understand. HUGS Diane

It took me a long time to be able to listen to ANY music. I used to love all music and Bruce and I had so many memories with music. Actually I think it was more me than him. I would force him many times to listen to songs that I would hear and make sure he knew the words(I would sing them,) not good but sing them anyway. Bruce loved old country songs,really old ones and at times he would let me know what certain songs meant to him. I finally am able to listen again, but also many of the songs are skipped over.
Thanks for sharing your point of view.
Hugs to you
Brenda

You're not the only one, I can't listen to music at all. From any era actually. My wife couldnt hold a note, but that never stopped her from singing along, to me her terrible singing was like music from heaven. I would yell at the kids for telling her to stop. It breaks my heart not to hear her sing now. I can never enjoy music again : (

I'm such a mess, Sal.

No you're not the only one! For me though, it was country music I had to quit listening to. At the time of his death, "Wayman's Song" was played every hour. At the time his favorite was "God Is Great, Beer is Good, and People are Crazy," and I still cry every time I hear that one.

The 60's music is some of my favorite, but it also reminds me of his stories of his crazy college days and I get a laugh, but it was a little before my time (he was 13 years older than I). Now I just tune in to 70's soft rock most of the time, but I've gotten really good at flipping channels to avoid certain songs.

We will all ROCK ON some day soon!!
Hugs, Cathy

YES - I AM AT 1YEAR AND STILL CANNOT LISTEN TO MUSIC-IT WAS EDDIES PASSION AND IT TOO MAKES ME TOO SAD-LIKE U NEWS RADIO FOR NOW ONLY

Music was part and parcel to who Gary was, he enjoyed so many genres. He loved making mixed CDs and on them you could find anything from Patsy Cline, to Elvis, to the Black Eyed Peas to the Beach Boys.
I love listening to those CDs but have to skip over a lot of songs some days. Our daughter likes to listen to them as well. The other day she said she knew how much Dad loved me because all of his CDs were about love.
We also played them at the funeral home and a number of people commented on the music.

Music has been a huge part of my life since third grade when I started playing flute in the band and taking piano lessons...it's just on a little hiatus right now. Vern was a dyed-in-the-wool country guy (except he never cottoned to the 'new' country stuff), and when we were first married, I listened with him and we still loved the older tunes. I , on the other hand, have always been a complete eclectic...40's, classical, jazz, Native American, anything I felt 'good' about (except the 'new' stuff they do now for the most part). I always warbled around the house (he never complained), played my piano (he loved that), alone in the car on the way to town I'd jam to my favorite tapes...then he left me and so did all that. Songs I'd always associated with him would play (seemingly incessently) on the radio, on commercials, just the other day Buble sang "You'll Never Know" on tv and I had a real meltdown.

But I am finding that I'm starting to tap my foot now to a tune...as long as it's not connected to him...I can listen to Asleep and the Wheel and music that is upbeat. Still not able to touch those songs that move my heart to tears and send me through a box of kleenex, but I know that will change. The music is in me, I can't deny it, and he wouldn't want me to either. So now, when I find myself singing along in the car or waking up with some crazy song I can't shake folowing me around all day, I can smile and know that it's okay...it's me...I can't help it, that he is grinning at me somewhere, and I think that is one of the things that is gonna help me through to a side of this nightmare where I can breathe again. Thanks for listening to my ramblings..

Funny how people are different - I'm the opposite.