Get yourself over here, Julie, I need help! Just kidding - my house is pretty clean, save for the occasional huge dust bunny. I seem to save my crazed cleaning for the deli - the health inspector doesn't come to my house, lol. Nothing wrong with clean and neat - just sayin'. Hugs, Marsha (P.S. I do get what you're saying)

Greetings Julie:

I am deeply sorry to hear of the silence and emptiness that pervades without your beloved Charlie. I understand.

I too look around at our home that is noticeably hushed and void of my beloved wifes warm spiritedness.

We always had a tidy home. Clean and neat. Warm and welcoming. Yet without my beloved wife, clean does not fill the heart and soul like her love did so beautifully.

I so understand the sentiments of your posting, Julie.

(((HUGS)))

Genuinely
BEAR

Julie, Ivan relate to your post, my is just the flip side however , while we never went to bed with dishes in the sink or clothes in the wash, I now find myself letting the dishes go for the whole week keep in mind there aren't many, and a load of laundry cansit and sometimes have to be washed 2or 3 times before I remember to complete it. There are very few signs of life here, I love and miss him madly, Rhonda

I can relate, see I didn't even proof read.

I have the opposite of clean...Siince I had to leave our home (which I was cleaning like crazy after Joe passed) I am now doing nothing in this apartment. I dont care what it looks like since no one is coming to see it but my kids. All our friends have disappeared now.

I do not even have a bed now at this point. The bedroom is horrible and my son in law started plastering and is going to paint this weekend. then he is ripping up a 60 year old rug and putting down a new floor. He asked if I wanted to pick it out and truly I just dont care. I told him put anything down..doesnt matter.

I clean my dishes and go to the laundromat but that is it. Since I no longer work due to my disability, doing anything is hard enough but without Joe to be there...it just doesnt seem to matter to me anymroe. Hope one day I feel good about where I live again. I was always so clean and decorative....Ann

My problem is cooking. I cooked every night. I love cooking. It has only been 20 days since My dear Wayne left.

I don't see the point, lost 10lbs. I hope I might start cooking in the fall when it is coller.

Peace to you
Dually

I also am just the flip side. My house used to be pretty clean... "a lived in look" as Nick put it. Now that Nick is gone I just have no urgency to clean the house, cook, sweep floors, clean cupboards. Who cares if it is done? My 4 cats don't mind as long as their water bowls are clean & full, their food dishes has food in them and the litter boxes asr clean.
Whenever I do start a house cleaning project I usually end up in tears in about 45 minutes. I am not sure how to help either one of us. We all miss our loved ones and are so incomplete without them.
Hugs to you. Darlene

Want to come clean my comfortable mess? I also run a business and there is no time to be domestic.

Maggie

I can relate to the futility of cleaning the house. We always lived with the "lived in" look as we both worked fulltime and we are neat in our habits so we could get away with less cleaning. My biggest fault is throwing clothes on the cedar chest until there is a mile high pile of clothes that need washing and/or hanging up. But I think Who's gonna see it? My 5 yr old grandson and he doesn't give a hoot. No one else enters my bedroom. He watches TV in there when I'm watching something on the big one in the family room. I have no motivation because no one but my sone and family would care anyway. The only one who cared about anything in my life is gone. I'm thankful for my son/family. But they don't care either.

After Jim died I decided to stay in this house afterall it has been home for more than 20 years. i have two dogs and they can make a mess. I have always been a cleaner and things have to be in their place. Now I clean rooms that aren't even used. It makes me sad to realize Jim and I redid these rooms and now they are idol. We should have taken the money we spent and gone on one great vacation. None of it means anything to me without Jim. If it weren't for my dogs my house would really seem empty. Hugs, Chris

I think I got ya all beat...just saying

Horse manure that I trudge down the hallway - I look at it and shrug my shoulders...tomorrow
Straw and hay from front door to back door where dogs go out...I do sweep once a month...until I finally just get disgusted or I know someone is coming.

Dust....sometimes....

I finally did do some soul searching and said ok flooding is over time to work on house but than lawn needs mowing or watering, horses need brushing, weeds need pulling or sprayed...and the garage is looking better and better...

I think tomorrow I need to clean house....sigh

Julie,
I can relate to what you are saying. Life changes in so many ways when you lose a loved one. Prior to my husband's passing four months ago life was too busy to manage keeping everything in its place. I worked full-time and came home prepared dinner and we spent time together. Now there isn't any one to cook for and pick up after. I have two children still living with me but they are pretty self-sufficient. In addition to losing my husband we downsized our living quarters from a house to an apartment due to a fire a month after his death.

I used to love to 'fuss' over us a bit....we had our favourite dishes....plastic one with little fish on it... a little bowl that was the same...I loved to be cooking him something in the kitchen....tidying...making the place pretty for us....making him a cup of tea in the morning....just so...lots of milk...I would let him have his clutter and stuff just the way it was...in his room, that was all his stuff....I never interfered with it...(very, very little) maybe to do the floor or something or change the sheets....:(((( boy I miss him....I do nothing now.....close to nothing....took me 4 months to change the sheets.....place is pretty messy....I feel like there is no incentive to have it 'pretty' anymore........
I will clean it more soon, but only because I have too...and probably to sell...so depressing......REALLY MISS OUR LITTLE LIFE...and the little, little things that made us so happy....missubabe. xoxoxo

I guess I'm a member of the lived-in club.. Sometimes realy lived in-lol. My mom was a cleaning machine, and it turned me off. I just feel my house needs to be clean, but never pass up doing something to get it done, like mom.

What can I say? No critters but dust is my friend. Sharon

When I was in my twenties I was a cleaning machine,Pat was a trucker and when he was gone on the road I tried to make the house spotless so on the day he got home he would have a nice clean house and great food to come home too,I really didn't slow down on this till I hit my forties,then with my horrible back and all it slowed me down,but I still managed to have a nice home and great food for him(and kids)Now here I am 48,he's in heaven and I have no desire to clean,cook do much of anything,he has been gone almost 11 months,I want my life back,I enjoyed cooking and cleaning for him,my kids are 16 and 23,they pretty much can do for themselves,I force myself to get it done now