Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I had an appointment with my primary care doctor this morning.
He was also my husband's doctor. He was so wonderful during my husband's lengthy hospitalization, very caring, very concerned.
He even came to our home when my husband came home on hospice.
My husband passed 7 weeks ago today, so I was very "weepy" during the appointment.
He spent an hour just talking to me. How many doctors do that?
He said when God closes a door, he opens a window.
He said right now I'm in a room with the door and window closed, as I am in a dark place, which is grieving.
He said I have to take all the hopes and dreams that I had with Norb and all the memories of our marriage, and put them in my heart.
Then you imagine a fireplace in your heart.
The fire burns and it will light the room, and a window will open.
It may take a long time, that is bereavement.
But you must believe that you will go forward and you will see light again.
Hoping and praying for the light to shine for all of us.
xo
He was also my husband's doctor. He was so wonderful during my husband's lengthy hospitalization, very caring, very concerned.
He even came to our home when my husband came home on hospice.
My husband passed 7 weeks ago today, so I was very "weepy" during the appointment.
He spent an hour just talking to me. How many doctors do that?
He said when God closes a door, he opens a window.
He said right now I'm in a room with the door and window closed, as I am in a dark place, which is grieving.
He said I have to take all the hopes and dreams that I had with Norb and all the memories of our marriage, and put them in my heart.
Then you imagine a fireplace in your heart.
The fire burns and it will light the room, and a window will open.
It may take a long time, that is bereavement.
But you must believe that you will go forward and you will see light again.
Hoping and praying for the light to shine for all of us.
xo
When my husband died two of his doctors called me. One said to me, "Geri, I didn't think he'd go so soon." The other doctor's first words to me were, Geri, are you relieved?" I shouted, "What did you just say" and he added "Are you relieved that he is no longer in pain?"
I was speechless.
Neither one of these comments should be expressed to a widow/widower after their spouse has died by either a doctor or anyone else. Please give me your opinions.
Geri
Geri, I am appalled that a physician would say that to you! That is so awful, and I'm so sorry that it happened to you.
(Hugs)
janie
A month after Howie passed I had to book and appointment with our primary care Doctor who is normally a no nonsense , let`s get to the point kind of Doctor but in this situation and the way he was with Howie , he was amazing. He kept bringing me back in every month for the first 8 months to make sure I was doing o.k. and coping o.k.