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suicide....why???

melot
melot
every single day since we found my husband dead i feel like i have a million questions that will never be answered!!i look at our children and i don't know where i will find the strength to one day tell them the truth!he left me and most painfully....he left them and i can't bear the pain of my kids crying while i can't do anything to help them get over their pain!!!
Veronica77
Veronica77
During a time in my life that I just wished I could die (I think I am to afraid to actually do it), I was lying in bed and a thought came in my head "I died so that you don't have too (Jesus)!" I have carried that thought for some time.
Rainbow27
Rainbow27
Melot, so sorry for your loss. May your children be a comfort to you. There was a lady in our support group whose husband committed suicide. Much pain and self doubt. The counselor was a great help each week in letting her share all she was going through emotionally. many hugs to you.
Wifeless
Wifeless
merlot,

I lost my wife to suicide in 2009. Though I seldom post here, on another website for widows and widowers I have written many hundreds of times on the subjects of mental illness and suicide. One thing I always try to point out to those who recently lost their spouse to suicide is this:

"The psychological trauma of the survivor of suicide (SOS) of a loved one is classified among the most extreme that a person may ever experience. And this is made even worse when that suicide is of one's spouse, whose death is ranked as the single most emotionally stressful event in an adult's life."

So it is not surprising that you and your children feel as you describe. But the good news is that it will get slowly better with time.

Sorry for the traumatic loss that brought you here.

--- WifeLess