Perhaps u should make special plans with a friend. My fiance and I didnt make it to our wedding date which is 8/30/14. So im planning on going to Amish country with a friend to try to keep my mind busy.

Our anniversary was 10 months from Jake's death so I had a bit of time. It turned out that the Ringling Bros. circus was in a town about an hour away so I talked my daughter and SIL into taking everyone to it. Had a lot of fun and it was something TOTALLY different than an anniversary. I was glad that we did it.

Looking back on what I did on our anniversary, I agree it is a good thing to mix it up from the usual on your anniversary.
We never did take the day off, so on our anniversary I went to work as usual. When I got home I checked the mail for the usual anniversary cards. Humm, no mail the box was empty. I went into an empty house and waited for the phone to ring, we always got calls from family on our anniversary. The phone never rang. I put something in the microwave, ate and went to bed. It was the next day that it really hit home, according to the rest of the world, I wasnt married anymore. I am not trying to bring you down, I am just relating my own experience.
Be careful and God bless
Martin

Our anniversary was 8 days prior to Tim's Heavenly Birthday. It landed on a Wednesday, I did not take the day off of work, i did not want to spend the day alone at home in sorrow.
Our Son's sent me flowers and then all of us went out for dinner. It was nice.
Like Martin I did not get any cards or phone calls. It did hurt my feelings that my in-laws did not recognize the day.
8 dats later I had to cope with it being the 1 year mark. Again I went to work, I had a few tough moments but survived.
Hugs, Sandi

My first wedding anniversary without Howie was 4 months after he passed. I planned a trip to visit my parents and on the morning of went to church and then sat through a brunch my mom was hosting . This wonderful lady who is like an aunt to us, came over and wished me Happy Anniversary and gave me a big hug. Everyone else was afraid to say it and upset me but I told them that they were hurting more this way, pretending he had not been in my life. Later that day I climbed a small mountain (1000 feet) that we always wanted to climb together but had not gotten around to doing. I did it for both of us. This year was the second time without him and I can`t even remember what I did . I do know that my kids remembered and acknowledge the day.

My wedding anniversary is September 3rd. I plan to take flowers to the coast and to scatter them where I scattered his ashes. The task will be bitter sweet however I want to celebrate the day that glorious man and I said I do. Happy early anniversary to you.

Last year's would have been a tough one to top. I made reservations at a homey little Italian restaurant we'd always overlooked. The waitress asked what we were celebrating and she told the owner who made our meal off menu and comped the whole thing including wine and dessert. They made us feel like long lost family.
Ours is coming up the 13th of next month. It would have been 34 years. I have been at a loss for how to spend it. I have to move from where I live now so I'm buying a house in the country not far from here. I need a survey so I asked my boss who's a surveyor if he could do it. The 13th is the only day we could all get together. I was hesitant at first but Capri was always excited about everything involved in moving to a new place. Most people, me included, wouldn't think doing a survey was an appropriate way to spend an anniversary but somehow I really think she would. I know too that she'd be thrilled to see me finding my way forward. Probably not much help to you but whatever you decide to do, I wish you peace.
John

My wife passed 2 weeks before our 40th anniversary so my first without her was a blur. On the second anniversary without Donna our Granddaughter had a baby boy. I think my wife had a hand in that.

Do whatever gives you peace.

Thank you everyone! What a range of special moments and suggestions. I ended up not doing much but taking our wedding photos and scanning them in the computer. I also listened to our favorite movie and just shed tears. I did not have energy for much else.

I am thinking of you today. I know our first anniversary apart, after 49 years, was difficult. I was not alone that day, even tho I wanted to be. Sometimes, our anticipation of a memorable time is worse than the real day. At least I keep trying to talk myself into believing that!
I hope your day was okay.....

iksonak

our anniversary is coming up too. sept 5. we always went to MB and played golf that day. i think i am planning on taking the day off and doing just that. playing golf. i do find the next day or two after a special occasion is harder for me
kim

My first anniversary without Kenny is this Saturday, it will be our 39th wedding anniversary. My two daughters have already told me they are available all day for me for whatever I want to do or not to do. I don't know what I will feel like on that day or if I will want to do anything. My sister who lives 4 hrs from me called yesterday and said she would like to come visit Saturday and spend the night, I told her I'm not sure what I will feel like that day so I told her I would let her know if I want her to come or not. I love my sisters company but not sure if I want her to come that day. I'm thinking I would like it to just be me and my daughters. It has only been 18 weeks since Kenny passed, I have been doing ok but making decisions is not easy and knowing what I want or need that day is unknown. How am I suppose to know what to do on such an emotional day. I'm praying and asking God for help but any suggestions from those of you who have been through this would be helpful. thanks, Peace to all, Jrpinky