So sorry for your loss.

I lost my second husband (we were married 18 years) who was 64 to a massive heart attack. I was almost 57. This was in 2010. I remarried a year later and then lost him to cancer after not quite 6 years of marriage. I don't know which way is up right now. All we can do is take one day at a time.

I can't decide whether to stay here or move back to where I came from. There's a lot yet to do.

My Deepest Sympathy. This is a very nice group. Each person has lost someone they truly loved. They support each other through this difficult time. Visit here as often as you care to. There is always someone here who will listen and care. Wishing you comfort and peace. Hugs, Dolores

I for your heart warming replies. I'm so sorry you then lost your other husband to cancer then, shewearsblack. Somehow this life seems so unfair sometime, don't understand. Thank yous and blessings!!

I was worried about my Schweety when he left and read a couple of books. One was, embraced by the light and the other one was Sylvia Brownes, The other side. According to them we talk over with God what we want to go through in this life to perfect our soul. I would have never picked this especially, or other stuff I went through in this life. Does anyone believe that? And Sylvia Browne said we are all 30 years old 3 feet up and we pick our parents and what gender we want to be and rich or poor when we come down here and that we have many past lives. she did say that this life is a he--hole, excuse that word please, just quoting her. And that she can't wait to go home already, she meant heaven I guess. She passed away at 77 years old after years ago I think. I can't wait to go home either and be with my Schweety and the rest of the people I enjoyed!! Im hoping for some Divine Intervention for myself and all of yous, so the rest of this life 101will be bearable!!, hugs and blessings!!

It's so hard to go through this heartache, especially in the beginning. (I'll be going on 4yrs. this June without my sweet husband.)
I never thought I'd be able to get through those early rough and depressing times, but I did. I still struggle here and there, but I know he's with me giving me support and strength from afar. Everybody has different ways of coping with their grief, mine was and is in music and cooking.
You will get through this girl, you're stronger than you think.
We're here for you with big hugs and love.

Thanks so much for your reassuring advice and hope, I need it, thank you and blessings to you all!!

It's a long road, but you will learn to rely on yourself. I know it is hard. Flip the coin and see that he was just as dependent on you, just in different ways is all. You each made the other whole. That's why our "us" worked. I think the term is synergestic -- the sum total of the parts is greater than the sum of the pieces, something like that anyway :)