Holidays are difficult, so I may come off a little more despondent that I usually like to reveal.
I lost Virginia, my wife of 29 years on our anniversary day two years ago. It was very sudden. We had no knowledge that she was sick with anything more than a cough, but during a test she passed from complications due to cancer that started in her uterus and spread to her lungs. It was surreal to say the least. We walked in one day to get a CT Scan and everything seemed normal, but two days later I walked out with our adult kids after giving permission to stop life saving measures to avoid life support. Its been over two years and I miss her immensly. I have read others testimonies on here and agree that it is as if I was ripped apart and can never collect the pieces. At the same time, my faith gives me the peace of knowing that she is at peace, and that is more than a little comfort.
These days I struggle a great deal with regaining the drive I had prior to her death. In truth, I just don't care about the things I cared about before. I love our kids of course, and have been blessed with a wonderful new wife (also widowed) and we are working on chapter two; however, I just dont know if I will ever regain the passion that seems to have gone away when Virginia died. Its so difficult to get excited about things, especially holidays and holiday things. I take care of the things I need to of course, but my heart is just not in most things that involve "the things I used to do." I just go through the motions, hoping to re-ignite. My challenge is that I still live in our house, I still work where we both worked, I go to church where we went since 1991, everything is a reminder.
On one hand, I don't want to walk away from the things that have always been so important, and on the other, they just dont seem imporatant anymore. Anyway, I usually try to be more positive on here than what I am posting today. Perhaps I am looking for encouragement more than answers. I know there is plenty of it on this site.
I used to belong to this group a few years ago, and I found it to be a lifesaver. A short update: I am happily engaged to the love of my life! However, my question is about an offshoot group that I thought was here, in which some widows/widowers were thinking about dating; does that group exist? I am asking for my 40-year-old nephew who is a widower. He is interested in dating, looking for Ms....
I’ve been on several widow sites Been in one group. Joining a bible study and going to one on one counseling in two weeks. My husband been gone since October 29 2018. From all this bumping around I come to realize this grief thing won’t leave me ever. I have a widow lady I talk to 6 years for her she still hurts. She gets me Not many do. But I got sadder. Some on this site have so many...