This way of thinking lasts for a long time love. My husband died sixteen months ago. This is a long process. You just have to find little things in life that make you happy and sometimes it's only a minute at a time.xx

even after 3 + YEARS I think this way ... hopeful mourning

God hold us until we meet AGAIN ...

GailArmstrong is 100% correct......It does last a long time. I'm over
2 years and even though that doesn't happen to me anymore, I still
have some moments of "meltdowns"......These were our partners and
losing them is like losing a part of us. I was married to my husband for 15 years and spending every day with someone and then losing them is a catastrophic change for us. That piece is gone and we must live on. It's not such an easy task but, you can and will do it. Just give yourself plenty of time and know that everything you're feeling is normal. Everyone at DS is here for you.....Believe me, even your most, what you might think are crazy, feelings or thoughts have been felt by if not one, most or even all of us. This is a great place to let it all hang out, if you know what I mean......I am so sorry that you are on this
journey and I wish you peace. Keep communicating on this site and try to find yourself a grievance group....it took me 3 times to find the right one but when I found the right one, it was wonderful. Now I have friends that are local that "get it". I will keep you in my prayers.
Pam

Yes, and they lasted a very long time. I can also recall falling asleep on the couch, and one of my sons waking me up and because he is built so much like his Dad, for a split second I thought it was Cliff. You're not crazy....

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I am the same length of time in my journey as you (March 22 for me) and yes I sometimes almost forget and hear sounds that I think are going to be him turning the doorknob and walking in, or that this has all just been a really bad dream and I'm going to wake up and turn to him and say - WOW, you won't believe the nightmare I had last night - it seemed to go on forever.

And then, there are the times, it seems so so much longer than just the short time that it has. It seems years since I've heard his voice or felt his touch or tell him about my day.

mary, I feel the same way....almost 5 months and it feels like forever some days since I heard his voice, felt the touch of his hand on my face.

wendi, you are not losing your mind. I sometimes think I hear his voice, happens at night, it unnerves me and comforts me at the same time.

There are times I think I will never come out of this and then there are days like yesterday when I met 3 people from this board and I have hope that the day will come.

Jen

It's been 26 months and I swear he's walking down the hall or just turned the corner.

We were together for over 40 years and living without him is almost unbearable. The pain of the loss overwhelms me at times and takes my senses away!

How are we to carry on?

Roz

Reading all the comments hits home. I was just thinking yesterday
that even after 1year of losing my love, you find that your yearning from your family to talk to you about how you feel 1year later.
But it seems like whether they think you are over it (not even close) or are afraid or don't care........ I don't know, but all I know is that the hurt is still so there for not having him around....

As hard as it is, I will go on