Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
My fiancee Catie passed away suddenly on September 16th from heart failure. We are still waiting on the final autopsy report. Our wedding was supposed to be on the 18th on this month. I thought she just had a cold and it happened so fast. She was having trouble breathing and by the time the paramedics showed up she was gone. No one should have to watch the love of their life die right in front of them. I feel so helpless and I feel that I let her down. Its been about two weeks but it still feels like it happened yesterday. I am in a fog and nothing feels right. Food has no taste and I feel like a dark cloud is over my head. I loved her so much and I know she was soul mate. We were doing final wedding prep and we were both so excited. I have a ton of support from her family and mine but it is still the hardest thing I have ever done. My heart is broken. Im trying my hardest to keep my head held high as I walk through this storm. I have shed a lot tears for her and I have many more to shed. She was amazing and I will do everything in my power to keep her spirit alive.
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My mom passed away on June 18th. I was her cargiver and only child. Although she was 89 years young and it was "expected" I don't know how to BREATHE without her. I stay busy throughout the day but I can only do that so long until I burn out! I'm all alone now and don't know what I'm going to do!! I can only fake it for so long. I'm TIRED of losing my people!!!!
I am so very sorry for your loss.
You have come to the right place. The people on this site are so kind and supportive. We all care, and we're here for you.
Hugs,
Janie
I am so sorry for your loss. As npc said, of course you are in shock, and you will be for awhile. Cry as much as you want, nap when needed, drink plenty of water and try to eat at least a little. We're here for you.
Karen
Ii am so, so sorry for your sudden loss. You are devastated.
We are all here to support you. Be kind to yourself.
Peace and love,
Sandra
I watched my wife of 27 years die in front of me 9 weeks ago yesterday. ER on Friday and gone following Thursday. You are right, no one should have to watch. And I know what you mean by feeling like you let her down. You did NOT. There are so many factors involved and we all go through the "if only I..." thoughts. I'm still going through them. But there are just so many things out of our control.
I am so sorry for your loss and I'm so glad you're getting so much support from your family and hers.
Come back often. We're here for each other. Oh don't I know it.
Peace.
Vickie
Kym
and he closed his eyes, I laid my head on his pillow and moments later I heard him groan, they called a code and shortly after that he was gone. Don't torment yourself with the " what ifs". Realize it is out of our control. Please take care of yourself. Sleep when you can, stay hydrated, take your meds if you're on any, try to eat and keep your family and friends close. Keep coming back to this site as there
Are a lot of people on here that "get it". Remember that you are not alone. My prayers for peace and strength are with you.
Pam