Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I've been reading my journal and wanted to share a couple if things I've discovered. Typically, I just pick up the Bible and start reading. It applies to what we are going through. First, my mind is so busy, all the time and I've tried to quiet it. I'm almost 4 months. The fog has lifted but I still find concentration difficult because there is so much going through my mind. In the book of Colossians, the theme is that we can not live by rules. It states that when we try to live by rules, we close off the Holy Spirit and don't allow him to work in us. There are no rules to losing our spouse.
Second, Galatians 5:17 "For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want." It does have a way of working itself out without my interference or control.
These scriptures have brought me so much peace. They give me confidence that I can work through this. I will. My flesh is weak but my spirit is strong. I hope they will help someone else.
Second, Galatians 5:17 "For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want." It does have a way of working itself out without my interference or control.
These scriptures have brought me so much peace. They give me confidence that I can work through this. I will. My flesh is weak but my spirit is strong. I hope they will help someone else.
I mowed yesterday, had to take allergy meds in the middle of night. Overslept this morning, so didn't make it to church... I just hate that. Guess I will mow earlier in the week, instead of wasting my Saturdays with yard work. One of the other things to reorganize....time....
I'm happy for you in turning to your religion for comfort and understanding ~
Early out, the one part of grief I hated the most was it all being about me ~
I hated feeling like I was responsible for all that had happened and continued to happen ~
Having to do every f**king thing - all the changing, all the accepting, all the tongue biting - while the world continued on uneffected by my personal crisis ~
Man, oh, man my way of thinking really sucked!
With lots of grief work you'll get to where you want to be ~ *wink*
I'm cheering for you ~ *smile*
Try to smile or laugh once per day; it's good medicine ~
Take care & take it easy (whenever possible) ~
____________________________________________________*I am currently unsupervised. I know, it freaks me out too! But the possibilities are endless* ~ me ~
"Exodus
Sundry Laws
22. "You shall not afflict any widow or orphan"
23. "if you afflict him at all, and he does cry out to Me, I will surely hear his cry;
24. and My anger will be kindled, and I will kill you with a sword; and your wives shall become widows and your children fatherless.
.....The sages show similar sensitivity regarding the widow and the orphan. R. Yos said: "Anyone who robs a widow or an orphan, it is as if he robbed God" (Ex. R., Mishpatim 30:8).
"Who is one who performs charity continuously? He who raises an orphan" (Ket. 50a).
Commandment 256, writes: "It is forbidden to deal harshly with fatherless children and widows, whether by word or by deed. We must speak to them very gently and kindly, treat them as well as we possibly can, show the most favorable disposition toward them, and set ourselves a very high standard in all these matters."